Can you have an argument and still be friends?Can you break or challenge some social/cultural rules, but still keep your relationship? These are some questions that we have talked about already, and most people agreed that they could do it. When we meet another person with very different cultural syndromes and communication styles, they seem strange to us, maybe rude or annoying, or maybe shocking. I hope that the knowledge from our class will help us to understand these differences and reconcile them together.
I have a story...
There was a student from Thailand that travelled to Canada to study for a year. He lived with a Canadian homestay family. Before he left for Canada, he worked very hard to learn about Canadian culture, and about how to be polite and impress people there. He wanted to impress his homestay parents so much. He was extremely polite. He said "please" and "thank you" for everything: "Thank you for dinner; Thank you for picking me up; Thank you for everything!" And every time the Thai student said "thank you," his host parents said back: "Don't mention it."
After a while, the Thai student started to become very quiet. He sat politely for dinner, but didn't speak much. They did many activities together, but the Thai boy followed politely and quietly, but rarely spoke. The Canadian family started to worry about him. He was so outgoing and talkative when he arrived, but after a couple of weeks, something was wrong.
Finally, the host mother asked him if there was a problem. The boy was upset. He finally expressed that he wanted to impress them and that he wanted to show his gratitude, but every time he tried to say "thank you," they always told him: "Don't mention it!"
He thought that he offended them by saying "thank you," but in fact, "Don't mention it" really means: "MENTION IT." This was the first time for him to know this.
Sometimes our cultural rules and language use come into conflict. We are often trying to be polite, but we are miscommunicating because of it. This will be important to think about with the Gladwell chapter.
Please share your own thoughts or experiences. Aj. M
"We learn what we have said from those who listen to our speaking." Kenneth Patton
Hi! Aj. Matthew
ReplyDeleteFirstly, I want to show my opinion about your story in this week. When we have to live with a new culture, we have to learn about how they live and how they are. Sometime, we may think that a new culture does not be different from our country too much, so we can do something like our culture. From your story, this is the effect of belief own culture. In Thai culture, our parents teach us to respect the adults. We must say THANK YOU if someone does something for us but some culture may think that it does not important for them. Therefore, it becomes to be conflict. It can show that Cross Culture Communication can affect to our daily life. This story can deal with my topic in Writing III course. I would like to know that “How Cross Culture Communication affect to daily life of people who come from different culture”. I think that your story is one of effect in my topic.
For about your question in this week, Can you break or challenge some social/cultural rules, but still keep your relationship? I think that nobody want to break the culture rule because it can make you become to Other in the social if you do not follow the rules of culture. We have to adapt ourselves to be in group and we can live with other people with happiness. However, I believe that someone may follow the rules of culture by action but it may be very conflict in their mind. They do it because they do not want to be out group. They can not show negative emotion or action but it can happen in their mind. They do because they must do but don’t a\want to do. Conflict always happen in your mind if you can not adapt yourself in a new culture.
“We can face with some culture rules that we don’t want to do it but we have to do it because we don’t want to be OTHER in social.”
Are you confused with my answer? Aj. M
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From the Gladwell chapter, I don't finish to read Gladwell but I can know that accidents may come from misunderstand of the people who must work together and they do not talk together about some probelms, so the accident can happen eassily. Is it right?
ReplyDeleteGood evening Ajan Matthew...
ReplyDeleteI think it is good that this time you wrote about "Don't mention it" which is the one that I could not understand the true meaning so far.
I have ever been in the situation like that boy as well. When I tried to say and do something politely and I heard something like "Don't mention it" I did not understand well that it was a positive meaning or something.
Is it just because the difference of culture? that the host family may thing that students from another are strange for them and they don't want us to show much respectful like that anymore or something.
Now I know that it is just a miscommunication. Am I correct?
I hope that I will have an opportunity to go to Canada somedays!
Have a good night! ... :)
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Good evening Aj.Matthew!
ReplyDelete"Don't mention it", it is very mean to me.
I used to talk with my American friends and tried to explain sth to them.
If they did not understand what I said, they said forget it or don't mention it.
I felt so bad, because I paid attention to explain sth. to them, and thought that I am not speak English well.
Another story
I worked in plaza with Western culture.
When I went to work, I always said "how r u doing today?" and "smile" at them.
Sometimes, while I was working, I really always smiled to customers or people in plaza for greeting.Sometimes, I didn't understand some order from customer at all,the only one thing that I had to do is "smile" too.
Oneday, my American friend who is very close with me, he told me that every body thought that you 'r "CRAZY" because I smiled.
Is that the appropriate reason??
I never feel bad because it is my culture to greet others.
It is nonverbal miscommunication that I'm a crazy person in western society.
Thank you Aj.Matthew a lot to remind me about western culture.
I feel very happy every time to add comment in your blog and in every topics.
Really enjoy sharing experiences and cultures!!
Thank you n' Have a good night
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ReplyDeleteThese are great stories.
ReplyDelete"Thank you" is absolutely necessary in my culture too. If we do not say it, there will be a problem.
"Don't mention it" is not rude in this case. It is almost equal to "You're welcome." So, when someone says "thank you", I can say: "Don't mention it." (Meaning: I appreciate that you said "thank you", but don't feel like you must say... although there may be a problem if you do not... ha... so confusing.)
We are often more indirect in our speaking when we want to be more polite. For this reason, we are often more unclear too. I think this is true for English and Thai. I'm interested to know more about this.
I think many Thai people usually think like that boy because in our culture, we usually express our politeness directly. For example, if someone says something politely to us such as “thank you”, we will say “you’re welcome” immediately. I think the reason that we act like this because Thai culture is vertical culture and always tight in respect. We always respect other people particularly, the elder. This is our ascription and we usually follow it.
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, different culture can make misunderstanding between each other especially in language like the story that you have mentioned above. Sometime, we don’t understand other language and culture so it may cause the misunderstanding.
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ReplyDeleteOur university have many students from diferent places. I have many friends that come from diferent provinces or diferent culture. Something that I think it will be good for them but it is bad.
It is ok. we can explain what is the purpose or what I mean.
I think it's usually misunderstanding about culture but speaking asking explaning are the good ways to make it clearly.
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ReplyDeleteIt is a very good story. now I know more about american culture and not misunderstood them.In Thai culture has something like this to. We say indirect but actually we don't mean that.
For the question, I used to have an argument with my friend when we have different ideas. If it's not badly argument, we can still be friend. Sometimes I try to forget that argument and then it's easier.
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ReplyDeleteI also really do not understand what is a true meaning “Don’t mention it.”
Does it mean “never mind”, “leave it there”, or “that’s fine”?
I think it is possible to be up to each person and his/her voice because sometimes we have to care about the feeling of the speaker even his/her face.
When I was in Virginia, I tried to be more polite to everyone and adapted myself as quick as I can because I had to be there for 2 months and I did not want others to hate me or have any culture’s conflict. I started to learn from a little bit things to bigger things. For instance, they would say “Hi”, “Good morning”, or “How are you doing?” and so on when we met for the first time of that day. Moreover, they always said “sorry” when they did something wrong or said “thank you” to the person who did something for them. I had to have a little greeting to everyone around there so I thought it was good for me to be more confident girl. Another, they did not like really when my friends and I talked in Thai language, they said that it was not fair for them to do not understand my language on the other hand I could understand what they were saying. Then, I just smiled. Sometimes, I translated for them if they were in the situation as well.
I did not want to have any conflict so I did what they did and followed their culture to be the same as much as I could.
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ReplyDeleteI've already read your story "Don't mention it". If I were that boy, I think I would do like him. Yeah! I confess that I would always misunderstood this phrase if I didn't read your story. I think that it means..."Keep quiet"... In Thai culture, we always say something in direct way.
For your question, I used to argue with my friends but we can talk to each other again in the end of an argument. Ah! there is one case that I made an argument. I knew one guy called "Eddy". He's my ex-bf's friend. We used to talk and hang out. I think he is gay because he envy me when I talk to my bf. Then, he came to me and said "Get out BITCH!". I don't know why he said that so I start an argument with him. Finally, we didn't talk, even looked his faced. That's all.
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I don’t know the meaning of "Don't mention it" before. First, I think that this sentence is the negative purpose, but the real meaning it a good sound.
I don’t have the experience like your story, but I want to share my ideas. I think that the difference culture it means difference ideas. The people who are from own culture and live with the difference places, they will show behavior with difference from the own place.
Everything will happen when you go to the other cultures. Therefore, you should learn the culture that you will go to first because it can make you understand more with new culture.
Have a Nice Day Na Kah…
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ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, the meaning of “Don’t mention it” according to ID: 5031006218 said negative ways. I agree with her. I still confuse about this sentence because I observed from the word “Don’t”. I think this word is the negative meaning. I try to understand and learn but I am not sure that am I understand or misunderstand about the meaning of “Don’t mention it”.
For me, I don’t have the experience like you. I understand the meaning of don’t mention it from your story. Lol lol thank you so much. So, the people who don’t know other culture it’s not mean they are wrong. Necessary, they are needed to learn or adapt to other culture.
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Good morning Aj. Matthew :)
ReplyDeleteI have already read your story about "Don't mention it".
and yeah, if I don't read your story, I will never be clear about this "Don't mention it". Does it mean "never mind" or "keep qiuet", in many situation, i may confuxe about this.
I have an experience like that boy in your story too.
when i was in Florida, I worked with western people and I always say "sorry" and put my palms together like "wai" at the same time.
this is because we are Thai and we always do this,so we cannot forget to do it. (it's like a habit,though)
but my firends told me that they think I pray for something by doing and saying that. This is one of non verbal miscommunication, I think!
Then I told them reason why I did like that and they understood right then.:)
From all question in this blog, I do agree with your sataement (Aj.Matthew) that we always change and adapt ourselves in all culture we meet everyday and everytime!!
enjoy for being a part of your blog and your story:)
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ReplyDeleteI don't think "Don't mention it" will be the negative meaning.
I think the meaning and purpose of "Don't mention it" is similar to "You are welcome."
When people say "thank you" to me, I sometimes reply "don't mention it" to them.
That's fine.
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Good afternoon ka!!! Aj. Matthew
ReplyDeleteIt is interesting topic for me about “Don’t mention it.” First of all I don’t understand the real meaning of it, but when I read your story I understand this word more.
About your question can you break or challenge
some social/cultural rules, but still keep your relationship? I’m sorry; I don’t have experience to share with you. But I have some idea to share with you instead. For me, I think different culture it means different ideas as well. Everything absolutely happens when you are different culture.
One thing I want to tell you. Avoiding break social/cultural rules when you go to other countries that are different cultures.
You should learn their culture before, because if you break social/cultural rules it makes you become others from their cultures.
Moreover, I think if someone comes from other cultures and break my social rules, it still keep relationship because they don’t know the rules of my social. At any rate, maybe it becomes changing culture as well.
I hope you will understand my idea na ka
Have a nice day ka!!!!
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I always enjoy reading these comments,
ReplyDeleteLek... I like your story about your wai in Florida. They will surely think that you are praying like a Christian if you do that. That is a great example of cross-cultural miscommunication and kinesics (hand gestures).
"Don't mention it" is the same meaning as "you're welcome" or "no problem"... it is polite to say... but if you don't know, it must sound negative.
Good afternoon Aj. Matthew :)
ReplyDeleteI have an experience like this too.
In high school,my group had around 10 people. I had two people who was my best friends.
One of them, she liked to talk and talk. Oneday she gossiped about me with the other friends.
She thought that I taught about math with a friend who was a man.
She Thought that I and he were lover.In the real, I and he were just only frined but everyone in my class think
like her. Then my friend was gossip and gossip to another friends.
Therefore I and she were talk together and try to clear every thing that we have the problem.
We did not talk around 1 week. The finally friend is still be friend.
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Good morning Aj. Matthew
ReplyDeleteHow are you today?
First of all, I would like to say thank you for your knowledge from CCC class. I can improve my conversation when I talk with other people who have a different cultural syndrome. Sometimes, my conversation with my friends is not smooth and clearly but I try to make it well for a good relationship with us.
When I studied in high school, my father took a Canadian volunteer to stay for 2 months. She is really beautiful. She likes to walk around the village. My family really worries about this because she came to our house in the dark. It is very dangerous. Sometimes, my father told me that I can persuade her for using the bicycle or motorbike when she wants to go somewhere. At that time, she told me that she wants to walk alone and told me “Don’t mention it”. I thought if I am a traveler like her, I love to do same as her. I did not mind that she said. Sometimes, she did not understand when I communicated with her, she also said “Don’t mention it”, and helped me to improve my English.
Moreover, we have new one volunteer from Sweden. She came to teach me and my friends in the high school. When the students in class submitted her assignments, every student pays respect or “wai” with her all times < I mean when they submit and when they finished and got their score.> She told me that she knew it is a Thai culture but she cannot control the time because there are many students to submit assignments. She said that “Don’t mention it” all time. When she came back to my house for staying, she asked me about this. I try to describe her. Thai students will pay respect because they are Thai. However, it is ok if she told that “Don’t mention it” because it is necessary for her.
Thank you for your idea. If I make you confuse…so sorry^^
Have a nice day kah.
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First time, I hear “Don’t mention it” that I think it means “Don’t pay attention to it.”
ReplyDeleteIn fact, it means “you’re welcome” and it is positive meaning. It is sound good.
I will remember to use. I always use words in wrong situation.
I have experience about it. In the past, I have ever studied English with Australian tutor. He is easy and simply. We always talked about his daughter because he really missed his daughter. I have ever met with his daughter, Nicole second time in Thailand. When she asked me some questions or asked me give opinion about what did we eat dinner or where did we going, I always spoke “up to you.” Once she told me that it should be “it is up to you.” Moreover, my tutor, Tom told me that I always said “never mind.” When he wanted to help me something that it was not problem with him and he is not ambitious and willing to help me. Tom and Nicole asked me that why I always said never mind in every time. After that, I thought I am consideration to them, it is strange for them. It is manner of Thailand. Due to I think that I am being Thai and I always considerate to other people. I was taught by old generation since I was a kid that we should have consideration to other people but western people don’t have this word. It does not mean they are not manner but if they want to help whoever, they will tell directly that it is quite different with Thais. Thais always be indirect and always considerate. Now, I know I have different culture with them. It makes something miscommunication or misunderstanding.
Thank you for sharing idea^^
Good luck
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Well, the story like this it is very appear around the world and I used to. IoI
ReplyDeleteI think that it can be problem too if no one clearing up about misunderstood communicating. Well, actually no one will help to clear it up like host mom in the story. Sometimes we have to discover it by ourselves. When I was in other country, i was like thhis kind of situation too in case of to wear sandal. First time that I went to Brazil to stay with my host family.On first day om that year, they took me to the pizza restuarant. I wear sandal and my host sisi told me to get it out. She speaks sth but I really cant cath it because it is portuguese so I though that in Brazil wear sandal is impolite. Until I stay there for two three months ago. I just knew that she doesnt want me to wear sandal in the night because she afraid that i will get cold. So, that misunderstand make me change my life and mind too. That's so complicated to explain! ^^
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I enjoy reading your story in every week. As same as this week, it’s really good story “Don’t mention it”. I am proud of him who is Thai student in Canada because he is Thai people. He still tries to learn more about Canadian culture and tries to adapt the culture as same as another Canadian. For me, if I tired to do or speak politely like that and I heard “Don’t mention it”, it might be a little strange for me because I don’t know the real meaning of it – positive or negative meaning.
ReplyDeleteFrom your question, I can break the social or cultural rules but I never do because in Thai culture has the social rules since old generation. We followed it for along time for coexisting in the social. I believe everyone not want to break the culture rules. They may think if they not follow the rules, they will be an out group in other people eyes. It becomes conflict in their mind if they think it not important to do.
I have had a conflict in my mind and in my group of friends. It happened from the
though disagrees. After while, it still be the same relationship because we can adjust oneself for adapting and understanding to each other.
Thanks for your story that made me learn more.
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Good evening Aj. Matthew
ReplyDeleteI am Thai so, I think that The word "don't mention it" is important for me and others too.
I like to hear this word, because I think that they are willing to do sth for me or it is quite be positive.
I don't know how this word affect in other culture, but it means positive foe Thai and me as I have said...
Don't mention it. If you not understand what I said...
Thanks!!!!
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After I read the story that you have posted in the blog, it makes me memorize some advertisement on television. In that advertisement there is an actress from Thailand and an actor from China (quite not sure!!!)meet together in the market .when the actress wears cologne the actor said” kirede” means so pretty .However, when the actress hears that word she feels so angry due to” kirede” in Thai means so ugly .When the actor sees” she is angry then he said “you are so pretty” .The actress when hears that word she smiles immediately. I think this advertisement relevant with “don’t mention it “because it is about miscommunication in culture.
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After I read the story I think that sometimes I'm a man like the Thai people in this story, because I don't know what I should talk to other or what is good thing I should say. I think it is miscommunication between two cultures or more, so everyone should be more talking together. It can help everyone to understand what you or other want to communicate. The word "thank you" is good and the word "Don't mention it" is also good, then everyone have these word in your mind and use it.
ReplyDeleteThank you!!
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Your topic is interesting becuase I have experienced with this. Sometime, people communicate with different understading that makes argument or conflict. Once, I read a book that talks about English usage. The author said that if you don't understand the culture of native language, you might face or be looked that you are stupid; some thing is funny for you, but is serious for Others.
ReplyDeleteAnyways,I think if I have an argument with my friend, we still can be friend becuase we are friend. However, this is what I guess since I don't really know that can I still be friend with Other. I don't know because we are communicate with different language and are from different culture.
"Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference betweem damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude." William James
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ReplyDeleteCulture has more powerful to people in each society.
From story above...
I never had experience about that. It may be I never go aboard but in Thai society, I ever met situation like this.
It isn't strange about someone who is difference culture or society try to change herself/himself for be a same person who live in each society. It isn't easy to be if we cannot understand the society and culture in each place deeply. I think, the important thing we should to understand culture in each place which is strange because the understanding the culture in each place can help us for doing the right. The story above is the good example to show the understanding of each culture.
For the relationship between two persons who differ communication or culture or society, It is possible to be friend if each person understand each other.
You can understand me and I can understand you too. We can communicate in the same language.^^
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Morning again!!!! Aj. Matthew
ReplyDeleteFor your story sharing,I think that it is a great example to reveal the other culture know that Thai culture are very concerned about the respect and to express it.And I really like our culture because it is make other know it " We are THAI "
For your question that Can you break or challenge some social/cultural rules,but still keep your relationship? I think that it is not important that where are you from but
"what you are" is an important. We do what we are,althougt it is strang for other. So, I realize that we just be what we are and try to share what we do to other, we still keep our relationship because of Cross Culture Communication.
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Good afternoon Ajarn Matthew Ferguson :))
ReplyDeleteEven though I had an argument with my friends, we still be friends. We are from different culture but it is not a problem to live together if we know how to learn each other and accept it.
For the story, I know the exactly meaning of "Don't mention it" from now on. lol It is because we have different culture, we will misunderstand and upset easily. If you didn't tell this story, I still think that it is a negative meaning.
I always wonder that in Thai we have to say 'kha/krub' to be polite. In English we don't say 'sir/madam' often like in Thai. If I say 'sir/madam' more often, it's gonna be weird. :D so if I want to speak politely, how should I do?
Thank you: Have a nice long weekend =)
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ReplyDeleteI always think that different places have different cultures. So, people who come from many places also have different behavior. Moreover, the speech or expression of each person is different too.
It's very easy to misunderstand each other's purpose if they communicate with different ways.
I think people who come to stay together should learn and try to understand each other's behavior or culture. If they go to any new places, they should learn the cultures or tradition of those places before, in order to express correctly.
When I was a first year student, I stayed at the dormitory with my new friend. We were new for each other at that time. She turned on the electric fan (the weather was very cold. I said that "the weather is very cold today". But she was stand still. If she was my old friend, she would turn the electric fan immediately. She might think I just talk to the weather; not mean to ask her to turned off the electric fan anymore.
I think, sometime we should say directly to clear my purpose for my listener.
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ReplyDeleteFor your question, "Can you break or challenge some social/cultural rules, but still keep your relationship?"
In my opinion, I think everybody can make this kind of mistake because we are from diffirent cultures, and different beliefs. We might not know every single thing in every society that cuases us to break the other cultural rules. However, we can learn the particular culture through our mistake in order to avoid it to happen again. You see, if we learn, we will be able to keep the relationship or it might make the relationship tighter.
For me myself, I dont have any experience like this case. However, I need to prepare myself and learn more about the culture that I'm facing with because I believe that one day this kind of mistake might happen to me.....Thanks
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ReplyDeleteGoodday, teacher
ReplyDeleteEverybody must have a conflict. Nobody can not escape from it.
In my opinion, when we birth, we have to face with this problem. I have too. I used to have a problem with my friend. I used to hate him so much. I did not talk with him for 2 weeks. For 2 weeks, I and my friend stared to reconcile again, and it was better. I and him become friend again, and no more conflict.
Bye Bye.
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Good evening Aj.M...^---^
ReplyDeleteAfter I read ur story I feels that everyone alwayls has a mistake not only with the general thing but also with the cultural too. However, we never not know how bad it is untill we meet it by our self am I right?
For the qiestion "Can you break or challenge some social/cultural rules,
but still keep your relationship?"
My answer is I can not break the law of other social/cultural rules but I can make it
to be the way of me and other culture...I has a simple life style and easy going I like to do what I want.
Converstly, I don't like to breaks any rules as well.If it's dosen't break my rules or made me feel uncomfortable too much I will do it without any feeling. I will keep the relationship as much as I can and make it real. ^--^
I am not sure that I am answer the right thing that u want to knowor not but this is my opinion through this topic. ^o^
Good night na ka
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ReplyDeleteHey Aj. Matthew;
ReplyDeleteI have already read the story of Thai boy. It is the situation that usually happens to most people, especially the people that have different background of culture.
In fact, I think that this situation can happen to anyone. When people go to another culture, it is true that they will meet the new culture. Whether it makes people shock or its annoying people, people still have to experience it.
For the story, I don't have the direct experience but I heard a lot of examples which is similar as yours. Some cultures can be matched to our lifestyle and some cannot. Therefore, we always have to learn it.
For question,
"Can you break or challenge some social/cultural rules, but still keep your relationship?"
I still answer it as YES.
We can absolutely be in relationship even we think or believe different. Some issues might be hard to understand or it might be unacceptable but it doesn’t mean that we can’t communicate. However, the communication can be start in the style of learning. In some cases, the miscommunication can be the cause of the conflict that happened but it will be solve when we try to understand.
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Good Evening Aj Matthew
ReplyDeleteThe topic of the blog every week is unexpected! You always come up with new ideas about cultural things to share so that sometimes I need more time to think about my pasts for sharing things, it's like you are a past reminder. ^ ^
This week's story is great! I actually knew what 'Don't Mention It' really refers but never thought it could bring about such miscommunication. I have a story too which I just figured out!
My brother went out one night to have his supper and he asked if I wanted to have 'Moo Steak' (Pork Steak). I said 'Yes'. Then, he got back with the food but it's not 'Moo Steak'; it's actually 'Moo Sa-te' (Grilled pork stick, hope that you've tasted it). And I asked him 'where is my Moo Steak?'; he said this one and handed Moo Steak to me. I laughed and said 'you totally misunderstood'. I told him that 'Moo Steak' is a slice of fried meat, it's the western cuisine but 'Moo Sa-te' is Thai cuisine; it's yellow, and smells curry like. Many Thai people are confused of 'Moo Steak and Moo Sa-te' because they sound quite the same and lots of people still misunderstand it and use 'Moo Steak' to refer to both fried and grilled meats. I actually didn't Steak and Moo Sa-te were different after my friend told me.
I've heard that a language can't be a language without any culture and realized that how a language and a culture deeply relate to each other.
That's what I've got this week.
Have a good night and fresh morning.
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Hello, Aj. Matthew
ReplyDeleteThank you for your ‘Don’t Mention It’ story.
I really enjoy reading your stories, because these can help me to know more other cultures.
I also have the stories like this. I used to talk to my Chinese teacher about Korean series or music. I just told her that I love listen to Korean songs, and she started to upset.
At that moment, I didn’t know how to say, and I also didn’t know that she’s nationalism. She started to mutter that Koreans always look down to Chinese and etc., and I had to listen to her complaint for an hour!
Even though I think that it is not my fault for listening Korean song or am I wrong? However, she is my teacher and I cannot say anything, then I just decide that I will never talk about Korean stuff to her again (for avoiding her compliant lol).
Have a good weekend :]
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Hi, Aj.Matthew
ReplyDeleteThis topic is very clear to me because I have same situation like this.
In my old school, I have a friend in first day of school, we live along well together and believe we are the best friend.
One a day I talk with him and he invite me to play game after class, I ignore it and tell him "wait a minute"
He waits me and ask me again, I said same word.
1 hour pass, he ask me about 10 times!
Finally, I said that "I do not want to go, understand?"
He tells me that " You said "wait" I can wait you until now but if you do not want to go, why you did not say that kind of things first?"
I feel sick and reply him I have a headache and want to go home now.
He stand up, punch me and begin to brawling.
After that time, I never talk with him again.
That's all I have for this week.
Thank you
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Hello, Aj. M
ReplyDeleteMy miscommunication is happened all the time with my own parents; especially my dad. My dad and I are not talk to much to each other. We are about the high context couple in the family. Thus, many times that I found it would be hard for me to talk to him, and when I talks, it's always miscommunication (- -").
We once went to my friend's house. My dad is droving a car and I was sitting next to him. We used to go to this friend's house before, so I thought he might remembered it, but he didn't.
After a while I realized that we were not heading to my friend's house anymore I wanted to tell him "Dad, it is impossible for us to go to my friend's house with this way!" But I CANNOT because my dad is very good at remember all roads in Bangkok, so he might be getting angry with me if I told him like that. All I can say is "Why the views aside us are so strange! I am not familiar with it (- -")." Then, my dad told me "Such a goldfish memory you have!" and shake his head.
Then, no more word from me.
a haft of an hour passed and we lost, so I gave him a hint again as much as I can "I think we should go that way, I'm kind of familiar with it."
Then, he drove crazily and mad at me
"Why don't you tell me much earlier!!!"
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For me, I don’t have any experience like the boy.
ReplyDeleteFor your question of this week, Can you break or challenge some social/cultural rules, but still keep your relationship?
I think, nobody want to break the other cultural rules. If someone do or challenge the other culture, they may be don’t understand or don’t know about that culture.
It is possible that everyone can approach it.
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This is great. I-Toey... I really liked this example. I have had this kind of experience also.
ReplyDeleteIt is easy to see by your examples that these cultural miscommunications happen abroad or at home. They can happen everywhere. Culture is everywhere.
Hello. Aj.Matthew
ReplyDeleteFor the miscommunications always found in my family especially me and my father. I have one situation that it was changed to a joke. My father he cannot use Microsoft word quite well. When he wants to print out of the document, I ever told him that you must click "file" next is select "print" and anawer the botton "OK". After I told him, he already to know how to print the document. A day later, my father very angry and make a noise all a home. I hurry run into the house why does he make a noise. He told me that I want to print my document but I click the printer icon on the toolbar for open my printer but it not work!. He said with me and still angry. He told me that I have to stand up and walked for click open button at the printer. When the printer was opened. The printer printed a lot of my paper out. I never do anything. I asked my father that but you are already to click printer icon on the toolbar. He told me "Yes, already to click for opened the printer but it not opend I have to open by myself." I do not click "file" and select print and press OK button. When I heard like this I cannot told my father was worng becuase it was my fault for told about the printer icon can be order to print too. After he knew how to print already that the printer icon can order to print. He told me that this is my fault because I never told how many way can order print in Microslft word. The last he asked me that why didn't you tell me more. I never wrong because I'm your father. When I herad this I cannot say ANYTHING becuase I'm his daugher.
Parichat Poomthong
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I think your example story is good example of different culture, and it will be bad if people do not try to understand each other.
ReplyDeleteTherefore, communication is very important thing to concentrate.
For the question,
Can you break or challenge some social/cultural rules, but still keep your relationship?
Actually, i'm not a person who like to break or challenge any rules. I think it's not good to do things like that. People will blame you and later nobody will like, trust you anymore.
It's difficult to get along with other people, if you chalenge some cultural rules.
5031006014 "Aom"
Have a nice weekend na ka Aj. Matthew.
I think it is good example to tell about misunderstand from miscommunication. Sometimes we misunderstand something and we like to ask for clear, right?
ReplyDeleteI believe that Thais shy to speak with foreigners, especially Thai students. It doesn’t mean Thais can not speak with them but they can not show what they want to say!
I have a story too 4 years ago, I had studied at AUA. A teacher came late in that day. So I didn’t know why he came late but when he came to the classroom, I saw he forgot to zip his plant. I and my friends did not tell him in the class. When we took a break, we went to an office and told a staff about that.
That’s why Thais do not like to talk with foreigners too much …
Because we not sure and don’t know to communicate with them. I think if I tell him, he may angry or hated me. In fact, foreigners don’t mention about this, they usually say directly but Thais don’t to do like this because we have to considerate other.
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Hello, Aj.M
ReplyDeleteyour story's very interesting!!
I need to say indirectly to someone especially with the person that I fear and more respect (My Dad). Usaully, I will keep quiet when I was with my dad because my dad's so strict and less time to see his smile. I and my dad are low content for sure. so, sometimes, I cannot talk something directly because I'm afraid that he will say more than hundred words in bad mood. After I went outside with my dad and we're going to back home. I was very hungry and I know my dad have to drive pass the restaurant I want to look for something to eat. I said, " dad did you used to eat...at...restaurant. it's very dilicious." Dad replied " no, is it really dilicious? I think it's so so." then, He still continue driving and passed that restaurant...Ha..I'm quite upset. Dad didn't know what I wanted. I want to eat there not at home, but I can't tell him directly. That's always happend.
Have a nice dream!!
"GBU" Aj.M
M Y M I N T
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I have one situation about misscommunication.
ReplyDeleteI and my friend will go the restaurant for having dinner.
While we walk on the street, I have old them " I will go to the coppy shop, I have a lot of work"
Then, they do not go to the restaurant, They take to to copy shop.
They feel angry about me because we promise to have dinner.
I asked them " why don't we go to the reataurant?"
They reply " Because, You are moody"
In fact, I mean I would go to the coppy shop after dinner. Maybe my face has very tired and i am not smile, so they think I do not want to go with them.
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ReplyDeleteHi...Aj.Matthew
ReplyDeleteI'm not sure that this is some kind of miscommunication that you expect to read or not.
One day, I met a new friend in interpals. He wrote me some sms and talked together.
He lived in Australia and I told him " My sister lived in AUS too"
He said "Oh really! which city?"
I : "I'm not sure"
H : "haha really? you don't know which city your sister is living in.."
I : " ahh..I mean ..my cousin"
In thai, we always call woman who older than us " Pee Saw" and it's the same meaning in English "SISTER" that Thais always know. Thai society is some kind of close relationship and always call other people like their family.
And I still be Thai. That's the point.
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Hi aj.M…
ReplyDeleteThis is good example for miscommunication between two different cultures in terms of language used, and power distance that Thai student try to be polite to his host mother because of his background culture. And I think, this miscommunication is good for them to be more understand when they learn each other.
Well…I also have a big miscommunication with people when I’m trying to be polite. Sometimes, I use a lot of indirect word to speak to others because I would not hurt their feelings. But the problem is that other people could not get to the same point as I’m trying to express. :(
I have one situation to share…my parents took me to Khon Khaen for taking a bus to Chiang Rai last summer. On the way to Khon Kaen was filled with a lot of vehicles in two lanes, and it was difficult to drive and my father needed to be very careful. He was quiet and concentrated on the way when he was driving. Unfortunately, an accident was happened when my father was look to the side views, and stop caring on the way for a long moment.
At that moment, I saw a car in front was slow down because there was an accident around there. But I did not tell him directly to slow down the car. I did say something like “There were too many cars today, you should be careful” while the car was almost crash. Then the car was crashed!
It was my fault that I did not tell directly to my father. I did not think that accident would be happened because he was being careful every time when he had to drive every where. I was so sad about that situation.
Have a good weekend
See you next week ^-^
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Section: 02
Most I saw people that are different communication style. Sometimes, they use rude word but someone use politely word when they said to me. I don’t like rude word and I worry about it. Sometimes, I was angry when people use rude word with me but I cannot show my emotion. I thought I must smile and smile to them. I was angry 10 minutes to them but after that I don’t care what they said. I am interested their mild more than the word, and I still speak with them.
ReplyDeleteAnd when I say with other people, almost every situation I will use direct and polite word almost every situation because I think in finally I must to say that word. They must understand me too.
Miss Kornkanok Nonthanum
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Good afternoon Aj. Matthew
ReplyDeleteI think miscommunication can occur everywhere even if in the same country. When I studied in high school, I had an experience about miscommunication with my friend.
She was my classmate. One day, I took some cookies to school. After we finished lunch, I picked the box of cookies out of my bag. Then she picked one..two..three..four..and so on. I looked at her and said that " Is it delicious? " , she replied " very very delicious " and continue to eat until clear.
Do you know? At that time everybody was bored about her behavior and thought why she does not understood my question while everyone understood it that I told her to stop and share cookies to others. 55+
Again, I think the miscommunication can occur in everywhere and every time even if a speaker and a listener will speak in the same language, right?
Thank you kah,,,
ID: 5031006002 ^^
Hi, Aj. Matthew
ReplyDeleteThe story in this week is very good. Thank you for your information :)
In my opinion, I think the miscommunication always happens when the people from different culture are communicating together. According to the story that my friend has told me about when she go aboard, her friend in America ask her about the travelling in Thailand.
Her American friend: Did you go to school by elephant?
My friend: Yes (she answer like this because she did not hear the question well)
The friend of my friend: No, in Thailand does not ride the elephant in everywhere, we use the car but the elephant just like an animal which is an identity of Thailand.
When my friend told this story to me, I feel angry a little bit because I think why the foreigner think about Thailand like this. It seem like my country is very under developed country. On the other hand, I think it is very funny story too.
Name: THANK YOU
ID: 5031006022 Section: 03
Sawaddee kaa AJ.M
ReplyDeleteAlI stories are interesting case. I like Mary potter’s story. If I have to be a stranger in somewhere, I need someone like her to advise new cultures like that.
For Question..
Can you have an argument and still be friends?
I agree with everyone. We can be friends. Whatever, friends have many different kinds,so it depends on our reactions.People always have different things. Thus,we must to learn and adjust ourselves to different people.Because we share this world. .. Wrold peace!!
Have a wonderful holiday.
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Good evening Aj.M
ReplyDeleteYour story describe me understand our lesson easily. I like it.
I think in many times after we misunderstand anything; it is difficult to continue good feeling although I will understand those differences and accepts them after that.
Language use always causes of miscommunication with people who are from the different culture.
I also am the one who usually misunderstand about language use. I very confuse to answer the questions “Would you mind…?” I don’t know to say yes or no to agree with or premise.
For example, I want to open the window and you also agree with me, so I ask you,“Would you mind if I open the window?”. I confuse that answer yes or no is show permission to open the window.
In Thai language use, say yes means that I mind if you open the window, so you should not or can not do it. On the other, say no means that I do not mind if you want to open the window, so you can do it.
MissTreerat Lertouran (Buay)
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From the example, if I were that boy I might feel bad same as the boy feel at that time.
ReplyDeleteMiscommunication can be happened easily when we jump to another culture that we are not familiar with or never know the way of their culture before.Threrefore, I think that miscommunication between two different cultures are quite simple and normal.
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Good Morning Aj.Matthew
ReplyDeleteThe topic of the blog in every week is very interest ,especially this topic because I never heard it before. However, the foreigner often use this word that in someday, if I talk with them, I may heare it.
Thank you, Have a nice day.
bye....
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ReplyDeleteHi! Aj. Matthew
ReplyDeleteLove to read your blog again.
You have many stories to share with us.
Those stories make me understand more about the class.
Also this week, our culture has affected to our communication.
As you say in our last class, power distance has affected
a lot in our verbal and non-verbal communication.
I have an experience about it.
At the first time that I have to go home by myself,
my father planed to pick me up at the airport.
But, there were two airports in Bangkok.
I said “You have to pick me up from Suwannaphum
not Don-Muang. There aren’t domestic flights at Don-Muang
anymore.” My father knew that before I took off.
And he said “I know, Don’t tell me about that basic knowledge.”
After I arrived at Suwannaphum, I called him.
“Dad, where are you? I am waiting for you at the exit door”
“I am also at the exist door.” said my father.
“Wait wait! What’s the airport that you waiting for me?”
“I waiting for you at the Don-Muang Airport, you’ve told me
before you take off. Are you Alzheimer?” said my father.
At that moment, I realized that my father was wrong.
However, I couldn’t say “Dad, you go to the wrong place!”
I said “Oh dad! Do you think about the domestic flight?”
Suddenly, my father knew that it was the wrong place.
He tried to make him correct.
He spoke many things to be an excuse.
After I cut the line, I laughed and talked to myself. “Oh my dad!”
He drived to pick me up in an hour later.
Finally, my father never goes to the wrong place for pick up me.
And I don’t have to speak about the Domestic flight, which is the
basic knowledge any more. 555 : )
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Section:03
Thank you for the real meaning of "Don't mention it" that I have never known it before.
ReplyDeleteI have an experience like this story.
My friend who is a foreigner always tell me "Break a leg" before I presentation in front of the class. I very upset when I heard it and do not speak with my friend for 3 days because I understand that he imprecated me. My friend very worried about me and do not understand what is wrong,so I tell him that I so berserk because he imprecated me to have a break leg. He smiled and told me that
"Break a leg" means Have a good luck. I said sorry with him and told him that I have never known it before.
Have a nice day and "Break a leg" Aj.Matthew.
Miss Sasirada Thapoen
ID 5031006159 Sec 03
Good afternoon sir.
ReplyDeleteI comment on Sunday onece again.
"Don't mention it" this word i never face in my real life but I used to hear from movie onece. I cannot tell you which movie becouse there are many movies i used to watch anyway but I can remenber some scene. The character perform so normally after another character said "Don't mention it" so i guess this sentence is not bad word. Therefore, it makes me think that "Don't mention it" means "Your welcome" "it's okay". Something like that. After I search the real meaning of "mention" = "to talk or write about something or someone" I understand why many people confuse about this"Don't mention it".
"Don't mention it" means used to say politely that there is no need for someone to thank you for helping them.
Happy daddy day
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I think miscommunication can happen in anytime and everywhere.
ReplyDeleteI have an experience about miscommunication. Once, I had an appointment with my friend at 7-11 in front the school. I called to my friend because I was waiting for her for a long time. It was very late. When I called her, she told me that she was buying some snack at 7-11. I was very confused because I was in the 7-11 but I didn’t see her. I asked her immediately “Where are you?”. She told me that I was waiting for you at 7-11 nearby my house. Oh God -O- I was waiting her at 7-11 in front the school but she thought 7-11 nearby her house. She thought that I will pick her up at 7-11 near her house and came to the school together. Finally, I have to wait for her around 1 hour because her house was very far from the school. U_U
Moreover, I have a story to tell you. It was very embarrassed about my friend. When I studied at high school, I have my close friend who has a body odor. I and other friends didn’t like to be close with her. I always tried to hint her that she has a body odor. I asked her that “Are you smell something?” It’s like a bad egg around here. 55 Although, she is my friend, but I can’t tell her directly. I think she might be ashamed me. But when I said like this, she said “Really? I didn’t smell.” T^T
Once, she and I studied in the class and the teacher passed us. She said where is the bad smell and she tried to smell around us. Finally, the teacher advised her to use something to stop the body odor. (-////- )
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Hi, Aj. Matthew
ReplyDeleteIt's a embarrassed situation when I meet it. It's a big deciscion to tell something that Iknow it's true but can't tell.
Especially, my father is the one who is respected by member in family. He is a head of family. He will make a decision in my home.
Sometimes, I know it isn't a good thing to do following his decision but what I can do. Nothing! I just listen and do whether is good or bad. It's my father's contentment. He will happy to see that. Therefore, I do.
From our studying at the class, I understand that it depends on who I am talking with: freind, senior, child, and so on.
Consequently, sometimes we can but sometimes we can't. Sometime, we have to lie for something truth, not for individual but for colective.
Have a nice day!
Chitsanupong Chuenthananont
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I'm Chariya Sawangsri ID 5031006010 Section 01
ReplyDeleteFrom this article, it made me to get a little bit confused about this word "don't mention it". I think that it means never mind, your welcome, or somrthing like that. I have not known before that it means don't talk about it or don't say it. I just know from this article. However, I want you to describe about meaning of it again in class. I'm afriad that I got some misunderstand. I want to clear about it. Thank you for your nice article that you always give me every monday.
From the question, Can you have an argument and still be friends?
Absolutely, I can have an argument and still be friends. It is like when I do homework with friends. We maybe have different ideas, but we can share the ideas and also the reasons. Then we will select the good one to fulfill our work. After work finish, we still be friend.
Then we will be a group for another assignment.
This is about language miscommunication. It can happen among two cultures or even in the same culture. Once, when I was a young boy in primary school, I was studying english, with a foreigner teacher. He asked me "What do you do?", then I said "I sit".
ReplyDeleteAbout your question, "Can you have an argument and still be friends?" I think I can. I have many friends. It's possible to have arguments sometimes. If it's from miscommunications or curtural differences, I can accept easily. I think I'm quite relaxed or flexible to these issues.
I had a friend from Germany. When we went out for drinking, I started to say "Cheer" to him and clinked glasses, but he didn't do it because I didn't have "eye contact" with him. He said that everytime we must have eye contact to people that you are clinking glasses with, to show your sincerity, not just to do it. I think it's resonable and not bad to do it. Now, I like to do it.
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Hi Ajarn Matt
ReplyDeleteThanks for the story, itis very interesting for me. I have a story about miss communication too but it is not about me. I am the one who see about 2 two girl communicate with each other by chating at the internet. It's about the girl from Vietnam who want to know about Thai culture but there is a Thai girl, i think she do not understand with the question from vietnam girl and she did not enough polite with vietnam girl. So, I think that is one about misscommunication that i understand.
In different culture, it is not easy to understand about each culture. And i believe that Don't shy to try something new.
Have a nice day !!
Jutatip 5031006133 sec:03
Good evening Aj. Matthew
ReplyDeleteThank you for your sharing a good story and example again.
Your story make me think more that communication of human not easy. It is a sensitive things and more complex. We can misunderstand to other and they can do it to us too.Mostly people always make the disicion before touch other.
For my experience it occur between me and my mother. At that time, I have a close friend he is a gay (my mother know him well). One day my family went to travel to someplace and I invited him to went with my family.We went by a van I and he sit together in front of my mother and sister. We felt sleepy so much and then we slept side by side and very close. I think he is my best friend enought to hold hand or hug. Although he is man but his heart similar to all woman. When I came back home my mother angried and blamed anout those situation. She said although he is gay but he still be a man. Should'n close or act liked that because it wasnot polite. I'm seriouse and try to explained but she not listened. After that day, I can talk and only talk I did not tell my mother's oppinion to hime because I didn't want he sad and didn't see my mother worry.
Is it can be an example?
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Good evening and Hapy Daddy's day! :)
ReplyDeleteHow is it going ka?? It's really nice holiday. ^_^
Thanks for your good story again. I've got more knowledge from you in class and here.
Actually, at the first time, I misunderstood about this word - "Don't mention it" when I first heard this word from my foreign exchange friend at high school.
As I'm Thai, who considerate all the time, we just think that every time that we got sth. from sb. or sb. doing sth. for us, we should thank them. I thank this friend who help my English, and h/she said "Don't mention it". Once, I think h/she annoyed me, but actually not at all. I got it that it's like "Mai Pen Rai" in Thai.
For your question, I think that if I have an argument with my friend, I can still be friend with them. I think if my friend and I use reason and open mind to talk together, it's gonna be ok. We'll understand each other. But, if we don't use reason, just use emotion to solve problem, it will be end of relationship. I think it's quite hard to end relationship. So, I will clear those argument as much as I can. I want friendship, not enemies. :)
By the way, for the miscommunication, I think it's still be there for me again and again because I am Thai, being considerate person, still use polite word and talk indirectly to elders and also others. I think it won't hurt them. But, after I learn CCC course from you, I will change my attitude and openly talk more. So, problems of miscommunication would be gone someday. I hope it. :)
Good night ka :P Zzzzz
Enjoy your holiday and Plz take care of yourself.
See you:)
Tipparat [Mingming] ID: 503-1006-031 Section 01
Hi, Aj. M.
ReplyDeleteI always miscommunicate with the foreigners who ask me about Yes/No negative question. For example, When they ask me like "Did you not do it by yourself?" I always get confuse how to answer it correctly because it is different ways when you have to answer in Thai language.
Have a good dream :D
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My ID is 5031006117
Good evening Aj. Matthew
ReplyDeleteThank you for you good story and example.
The experience that I need to share for you and my friends is the polite communication, especially for women, that the result was very unimpressive. Last year, in the Loy Kra Tong festival, I had to make up for one lady who is the Mayor wife. She had to compete in Thai Lanna dress. She showed me the hair and making up style picture and told me she need to be like that. The picture was the Thai super star who has the perfect face. The terrible problem was the different age, face and skin between mayor wife and super star. She asked me that she appropriate with that or not. Because of her position, I could not tell her in the direct way. I said “this picture is very beautiful”. On the other hand, I did not dare to tell her that hair and make up style was inappropriate with her. I said and suggested the other styles for her but she still chose that style. After the finished making up, she appreciated me that I could do the same hair and making up style. However, I still thought that she was inappropriate it. Next day, she phoned and told me that she did not receive the any prize. Moreover, her friends laugh for her and told her that her face was like square box because of hair style. Her eye color (eye shadow) was not beautiful for her. She still wondered and asked me that why did her friends laugh for her. I thought I had to tell the fact for her. I thought if I tell her, she will be angry me for sure. Finally, I told her that her face was like square. That hair style was appropriate for the long face. The making up style was also inappropriate. Even though that style was beautiful, that style was the cabaret. She had to be made up in natural style in that situation. Before she finished the phone, she thank you for me that explained the fact for her. Present time, she still be my regularly customer. This story has taught me that sometimes I have to say in the direct way for reducing the terrible problems.
Good evening Aj. Matthew
ReplyDeleteThank you for you good story and example.
The experience that I need to share for you and my friends is the polite communication, especially for women, that the result was very unimpressive. Last year, in the Loy Kra Tong festival, I had to make up for one lady who is the Mayor wife. She had to compete in Thai Lanna dress. She showed me the hair and making up style picture and told me she need to be like that. The picture was the Thai super star who has the perfect face. The terrible problem was the different age, face and skin between mayor wife and super star. She asked me that she appropriate with that or not. Because of her position, I could not tell her in the direct way. I said “this picture is very beautiful”. On the other hand, I did not dare to tell her that hair and make up style was inappropriate with her. I said and suggested the other styles for her but she still chose that style. After the finished making up, she appreciated me that I could do the same hair and making up style. However, I still thought that she was inappropriate it. Next day, she phoned and told me that she did not receive the any prize. Moreover, her friends laugh for her and told her that her face was like square box because of hair style. Her eye color (eye shadow) was not beautiful for her. She still wondered and asked me that why did her friends laugh for her. I thought I had to tell the fact for her. I thought if I tell her, she will be angry me for sure. Finally, I told her that her face was like square. That hair style was appropriate for the long face. The making up style was also inappropriate. Even though that style was beautiful, that style was the cabaret. She had to be made up in natural style in that situation. Before she finished the phone, she thank you for me that explained the fact for her. Present time, she still be my regularly customer. This story has taught me that sometimes I have to say in the direct way for reducing the terrible problems.
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i used to have experience that similar to your story too when i was in primary school. i like English subject very much and i always come to ask my teacher about the lessons that i have learned, when i finished to ask her i always say thank you to her and she always say "dont mention it" i was think by myself that i dont have to thank you her because she say dont mention it all the time. for me "dont mention it" mean that she dont care about my thank you. so i decided not to thank you her almost a month and after that she asked me that why ive changed, why i dont say thank you to her anymore so, i explained to her that i thought that she dont care about my thank you and after she knew, she laughed and taught me that "dont mention it" its the word that mean "mai pen rai" in Thai not mean i dont care it.
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I never heard about this and never face with this kind of the situation before. This is my first time.
ReplyDeleteIt is a little bit strange to change yourself for just make others impress in you. It is true that it is important but not too much.
I have ever be like this that I want others to impress me when I first come to this university.
But, it is not me. Therefore, I act just the way I am now.
Kukkui, 5031006229, Section: 2
HELLO Aj.M.
ReplyDeleteThank you for your story. After I finish reading, I begin to confuses about "Don't mention it" that is good or bad because I still remember that is the same meaning as you're welcome.
I have some situations that happen with my sister. She is a trainee at Suvarnabhumi airport and she has a foreign friend who is a trainee as well. She always called his name E-Chang, (actually, E is very impolite in Thai culture and people did not use it to call the name of people) and her friend called her back by E as well but he did not know what is the exact manning. In this case, I can call it as a language miscommunication or not?
Good night ^^
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Hi Aj.Matthew
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed to read your story about culture very much. It made me know and understand more about other cultures. For the question, I think we can still have a good relationship when we break other culture rules but it must not be a slashing things because some cultures quite strict. If it is just a little thing, I think forgiveness is best way to slove the problem because we can misunderstand other culture many times.
Hav a nice dream Aj.Matthew
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Hi Aj.Matthew
ReplyDeleteI thik we can have a conflict with others but still keep good relation. For me, I ever had conflict with my friend when we misunderstood with each other but we still be friend and the mistake teaches us and we do not do it again.
It must take time to understand other people and other cultures.
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Hi Aj.Matthew
ReplyDeleteI think we can have a conflict with others but still keep good relation. For me, I ever had conflict with my friend when we misunderstood with each other but we still be friend and the mistake teaches us and we do not do it again.
It must take time to understand other people and other cultures.
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Hi Aj.Matthew
ReplyDeleteI think we can have a conflict with others but still keep good relation. For me, I ever had conflict with my friend when we misunderstood with each other but we still be friend and the mistake teaches us and we do not do it again.
It must take time to understand other people and other cultures.
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I can't forget it
ReplyDeleteIt happended in How to Live and Learn Camp. I was freshmen and my English was really bad. I had to present my work infornt of the class. while i was reading my work, i stuck and then stoped. The teacher told me that " Go a head" then i walked to my seat.
Teacher said " Where are you going?".
I siad " You told me that go ahead"
Teacher said " No! No! It's mean keep going ,keep reading your work!"
I felt really embarrassed
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ReplyDeleteThanks for your knowledge and value experience to make me know more about CCC. Because of culture, it is something that links people together and makes them learn to each other, CCC happened. I just know each culture has a lot of delicacy in terms of the way of life. By the reason of the difference, miscommunication always happens.
Sometimes we say something, it doesn’t mean like that but it is contrast. Some people don’t know the real intention of the speaker, so they interpret to another meaning.
Sometime I say or tell something with other people, but they don’t pay attention to me. When they ask me again what I said, I always say “nothing”. Why I said like that because my friends don’t interest me, I feel hurtful. (- -“)
For me negative word, it means feel bad and want someone pay more interest. ^^”
Let’s taste morning coffee ka,…, Aj. M.
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Good Morning ka! Aj. Matthew ;)
ReplyDeleteThank you for your interesting story na ka ;)....
Firstly, I would like to share some comments about your story .
I think living in different culture or the same culture, miscommunicating is usually happened. When we say something, it depends on the person who listen to it will understand it and interpret it.
Culture is an important thing that makes the use of languages go in different ways. For example, Thai people usually humble with others. We always say "Thank you" for almost everything that other people do for us and " Mai Pen Rai" every time when other people say "thank you" (for me na ka ><").
For your question, I think I still can be friend when I have a conflict with a person.
I sometimes have some ideas contrast with my friends. I think I can not say they are arguments, but they are just miscommunicating.
I usually think that we have born with different culture and different family. Therefore, we have been touch and raised up in different ways and styles. We can not understand all the people all the time and no one can understand us all the time, too.
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ReplyDeleteGood morning Aj. Matthew.
ReplyDeleteI had already read your story. it is a good story because it can show the difference of culture clearly. actually, i do not know about culture clearly but when i study this course, i can know more about misunderstanding of different culture. i know more about America culture. i am a sensitive person, so i think if i live in America and someone say "don't mention it" i think i maybe cry.
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I love reading this. Thank you for your examples and stories. You all understand these concepts well. Please make sure to read your friends' comments because I think they are very useful for our collective knowledge.
ReplyDeletePink: I really loved this story about the make-up. It is a perfect example. It is quite funny that we cannot tell the truth.
Freedom Kingdon: I also loved this example. Gender controls communication, even small things like holding hands or being close, and your mother noticed this. This will be good for us as we continue this week with Zimmerman & Geist-Martin.
Thank you all for very intelligent comments.
From this story is showing the important of this subject. If I am this boy, I will be upset also because I thing "Don't mention it" is a negative word but after I read this story "Don't mention it" become a positive word.
ReplyDeleteIn thing Don't metion it = Your welcome
That ture or not
Thank you for new knowledge
Just got back from home. Staying there was truly miserable this time. Maybe I shouldn't go back at all :(
ReplyDeleteI know I'm a little too late, but I still want to share my idea.
In my point of view, people can still be friends if only they talk and try to communicate with each other to find out about the problems between them. Some social or culture rules also need to be communicated because people from different places have different cultures and rules. Therefore, I think communication is very important especially verbal communication. If you need to tell somebody something, you just say it and the receiver would understand right away. If the information needs to be told and the situation is not too difficult for you to say, it would be easy to use verbal communication.
From what we learned in Gladwell chapter, I know that the problem occurs because of the power distance in Korean culture. A captain is in high status and first officer is in low status. It seems that the first officer are not capable in communicate directly because he is not on the same status with the captain. In the end, tragedy happened. I wonder whether the situation would be different if the first officer acted differently by speaking what he think what could happen, of course communicate politely but less hints please!! I don’t think the captain would be mad if what the first officer tells him could save everybody’s life. Sure, it breaks some culture rules but is it really bad for trying to make things better and saving lives?
After I read your story I think that learning about language is very important because you might be confused and misunderstood like this Thai exchange student in Canada. I once was an exchange and I was glad that I paid a lot of attention in my English class, this subject happens to be one of my favourite subjects to study, I rarely got the wrong idea about what my host family or my friends said except when I didn’t know the meaning for the words they were talking about. Don’t get me wrong because I’m not saying that I am better than the guy, just want to say that paying attention when learning language is very important :D
This one would be quite short.
It's almost midnight now.
Need to take a rest 'cause I had a very LONG day.
See you in class tomorrow.
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Hello, Aj Matthew
ReplyDeleteI love your story. It is a good example. Actually, I do not understand a real meaning of " mention it". I do not understand when a foreigner said this word to me. It's means " Don't be serious" or don't care something like that, right?. However, your story make me clear about this word so much.
Actually, I always have a problem about communicate with people, Especially with my friends. Sometimes, it is my false. Actually, it always be my false 555+. I really misunderstand about everything, such as when my friend and I have a meeting. I always miss the time. It doesn't mean I late, but it means sometimes I come late and sometimes I come earlier. I try to adjust my problem, and it is better, but sometimes I still do it. I think it become to my personality 555+. I know it is wrong, and I try to improve my self.
Every time when I comment in your blog. It makes me know about Cross-Culture much more. When I read the other comment in blog. It makes me know people's opinion much more. It very useful for me. Thank You teacher.
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For miscommunication in culture, I have never had experiences on abroad. I think that “Don’t mention it” in western culture is the same as Thai culture. It is a common manner. Guests always say “Thank you” and people who are hosts always say “Don’t mention it”. This makes people feel good and comfortable to treat each other.
ReplyDeleteBy the way, I think that miscommunication is easily to appear in every culture. Especially, eastern culture is much traditional in communication. We can see from the spoken language like Thai which has more language level. For example, speaking about the royalty and Buddhist monk, Thai people must use the technical terms which sometimes are difficult to understand for foreigners.
Finally, I think that if we learn much more culture, particularly, communication, we will understand and except each other more.
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Good evening Aj. Matthew
ReplyDeleteI know it is too late to comment on this week week but I want to give my opinion. lol
From the question, I think that if I have to argue with someone, it depends on the topic which we have argued.
If the topic is general knowledge, I think we can be friend after the argue.
But if the topic is about my profile such as some stupid question "when your mom will be died?" What do you think about this question?
Do you want to be his/her friend anymore?
I doupt that never and no more.
For Thai society, only one topic is can not argue with is about the royalty.
I knnow you have known it already. Aj. Matthew
To sum up, it depends on the topic we have talk or argue with.
Have a good night
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Hi Aj. Matthew!!
ReplyDeleteSorry for my late.
For this story, I think this is the identity of Thai people.
I think every Thai people think like this student. We are Thai people. We always say "thank you" every time when people give something or when people do some thing for us. Also, when we did something wrong we always say "sorry" for that wrong.
Sorry for late again and thank you very much for the good story.
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Hello Aj.Matthew
ReplyDeleteI strong agree with your story that Many people always speak out with an opposite conversation which different from real feeling inside. For example, my friends always told "Not at all" with her boyfriends when her feel angry. So that is the signal word of "I am angry now!". I don' t understand why did not told the real things that you want.
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