Last Summer, Caster Semenia, an 18 year old runner from South Africa, won the gold medal at the World Championships in Germany. Actually, she didn't just win... she won easily. After the race, people started to ask questions about her. There were some drug tests, but there were no drugs in her body. However, they discovered something else. She had some male parts inside of her. Outside she is a female, but inside, she had male testicles, no uterus, and high testosterone: she is a hermaphrodite. A hermaphrodite is a person that has mixed male and female biology. It is rare, but still there are many people born like this.Nobody knows what to do about poor Caster Semenia. She isn't cheating. Her masculine biology is too strong and fast for her to compete with women. Her feminine biology is not strong enough for her to compete with men. She is somewhere in the middle.
Gender is important for us to know before we communicate. I'm not sure why it is so important, but it is. If you're a lady, I should speak to you in a particular way. If you are a man, there is another way for me to speak to you. If you are gay/lesbian, this may affect my communication with you.
More than just gender, why do we need to know someone's private sexuality in order to communicate, or on the other hand, why is it important for other's to make public their sexuality to feel comfortable. I have had many close friends come out to me that they were gay... after that, they always said something like "they feel free." I understand why they feel like that, but I do not understand why it is important in society and culture to feel like that. Zimmerman and Geist-Martin also ask this question.
You may not be gay or lesbian or transgender or other... but maybe you have friends that are. Does it affect your communication with them? Or, did you ever feel between identities? Are you a girl that likes "boy's things," or the other way around; are you a boy that likes "girl's things?" Does it matter? These are many questions, but gender is a confusing and complicated subject.
I'm interested to know what you think. Thailand has one of the most open sexual cultures that I have ever experienced. Maybe you agree with me... maybe not. Aj. M
"My sexuality has never been a problem to me but I think has been for other people." Dusty Springfield
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ReplyDeleteHi Aj.Matthew;
ReplyDeleteI'm glad that I am the first person who make a comment on your blog...
Gender is the important issue in every society. When we were born, the first thing that people pay attention on is our sexuality status. I don’t know why but most people do that. When we go to hospital or someone’s home to visit the new mother, first thing that most people want to know about baby is the gender. Especially in the past time, Chinese and Indian cultures are really strict about the gender issue. They don’t want their family to have a girl baby. They killed the girl baby immediately after they know that the baby is female. However, this situation in present time is less important than in the past. People in this new time still care about the gender but as much as the old people in some countries.
The society in nowadays is really open. New kind of gender is coming up. Gay, lesbian, and transgender are quite acceptable in most culture. Some can be legally but as we are straight, we might feel that they are weird. It might not be their false. The culture that they lived in might be the cause. The family has 4 daughters and a son. They lived happily but one day, the father is died. The mother has to look after her children alone. The boy has to live with his mother and 4 sisters. All are female. He absorbs the female behavior from his mother and sisters. Finally, he becomes soft and gentle. He starts to play with dolls instead of robots. He wants to be a nurse instead of soldier and more… and more.
The background culture and the environment are very important in this case.
I have a lot of friends with the gender problem. The communication between us changes to different way. I cannot talk straightly and sometimes, some topics are not good for talks about.
I strongly agree with the idea of Thailand has one of the most open sexual cultures that I have ever experienced. I didn’t say that it is bad but again, no one said it is good. Thailand is really an open country. Thai culture always comes to new turn when it faces with new things.
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ReplyDeleteHello, Aj. Matthew ^_^
ReplyDeleteI’m happy to be the second one who makes comment on this interesting topic. Firstly, when the first time I saw the first comment above, I was like WOW! This is such a very long comment; even though I haven’t read it yet, I know there will be something interesting.
For what you’ve just mentioned on transgender or stuff like that, I could share something about my communication toward my friends. I have several kinds of friends- gays, lesbians, lady boys and so on. The ways I use to communicate with them are different. For example, I like to talk to gays like the way I talk to my male friends. And then I’m pleased to talk to lesbians and lady boys friends in the same way as female gender, meaning I like to react them softly and be more gentle comparing to male gender.
Moreover, I’m a person who likes boys’ things even I’m a girl. The reason I like it is that I like the way they talk and react open-mindedly. They communicate with clear and more honest feeling comparing to girls. I’m not sure if boys in western and Thai styles are the same but I prefer sincerity like man to fuss as girls. Therefore, I try to communicate with others honestly and tell what exact in my mind in the way that it doesn’t hurt them. Sometimes it also gets me in troubles because my girl-friends don’t understand what I try to tell them and it might be too tough for them.
Nevertheless, I still don’t understand some male friends who think like girls, meaning it’s not clear, seems like they hide any side of story behind them. Going nuts!!! The more we live in too many different genders, the more we learn the confusion is. Finally, I don’t think we will be exactly people want us to be SO I will be what I want to be and vow to be, meaning we should meet each other in half way.
Sorry for deleting the former comment, but I would like to make it easy enough for you to read it in paragraph by paragraph.
Thank you sooo much, Aj. M
I do enjoy commenting this topic.
Have a wonderful start on new week!!
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ReplyDeleteI mean that I know how to do and speak with other, especially transgender.
I also believe that we have tacit knowledge in how to speak with them that can save theri feeling and gender.
I have many friend including transgender, but I have no problem in communication and living.
I can live and talk with them in peace.
Finally, I can understand myself first, next I can understand others....
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I think gender is just a role for people in society.
ReplyDeleteWe have to follow our role in our society including gender.
I do agree with you that Thailand has one of the most open sexual culture.
We can see many gay, lesbian and transgender people in Thai society and they usually feel free to show that they are gay, lesbian or even transgender. This thing becomes common in our society.
I am the one who have many transgender friends and I can communicate with them properly. I have ever thing that why people become gay, lesbian or transgender and one answer that I found is about the environment.
The environment can be one factor that makes people become transgender. One of my friends grows up in a warm and lovely family but why he change to be transgender. I think because of the environment around him. He lives with his mother and four sister because his father die when he was young, so his environment always surrounding by women/female and he slowly absorbs and behaves like female.
Therefore, he always acts like women and now he becomes transgender thoroughly. However, I really hope that we should be in what we are. It means that if you are a man, you have to be a man and if you are a woman, you have to be a woman.
HAVE A NICE NIGHT ^^
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ReplyDeleteGood evening Aj.
ReplyDeleteFor me, gender affect to communication for some situation. On the other hand, it is not affect anymore.
I said that it not affect for communication because I have a friend who is transgender. We are close friend and talk to each other openly. We are comfortable to communicate to each other too. I really enjoin when I talk to him. I think he is a very good transgender because he can get a long with other people easily and be a good friend for everybody. So, I feel convenience when I stay with him who is transgender.
Sometime, it makes me feel inconvenience when I stay among gay, lesbian, or transgender because I fell not familiar with them.
When I came to this university at the first time, I felt inconvenience with the difference of genders. I thought this university has a lot of transgender. It made me feel uncomfortable too. I tried to avoid to stays with them because I did not know what they think about me. They might not like me too.
However, I am a girl (real girl). Sometime I like the boy thing such as gun or play something like boy plying, but I still be girl (not tomboy). I have an elder brother who likes the girl thing such as doll. He loves to play with girls and love many things that concern with girl, but he still being boy. He is not gay anymore.
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Hello Mr.Furguson,
ReplyDeleteI have many close friends that are gay and lesbian. Of course, the communicating will be different ways but I feel comfortable with them. If we meet a stranger, it is very important to know the gender before we communicate. If you are a man, I will talk in different way. If you are women, it will be more easier to communicate.
I used to have an experience when I met a new friend. I thought that he was gay because he was quite and always hung out with girls. Thus I talked to him like I talked with girls and treated him like my girl friends.
One day, he told me that he liked me as a lover! I got goose bumps.
..... and speechless.
Thus it is very important to know the gender first in order to change your communication.
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First,the gender has affect comunication with people.Therefore, you should present what gender you are. I thing it is important so much. Second,it has affect behaviour with people. You will see the girl and man have activities are different.
ReplyDeleteThe gender is the most important with people because it affects everything prople are doing with you, so you should be proud to present what gender you are.
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Good start to this discussion. I say that Thai culture is a very open sexual culture because, like you said already, gay/lesbian/transgender people mostly feel free to show their sexuality in public.
ReplyDeleteI think most cultures are not so free about this. I remember walking with a Korean friend in my country, and we saw a gay couple holding hands, and she was shocked by it. If you speak to international students here at MFU, they will tell you that they never saw transgender people before they came here. Ask students from Myanmar or China about what is the biggest culture shock for them when they arrived here: I will bet that they say something about gender, and specifically about transgender.
Hello! Aj. Matthew ( my handsome teacher) ^^
ReplyDeleteWonderful! This week is interested topic.
"My sexuality has never been a problem to me but I think has been for other people." Dusty Springfield
From the text above, it likes my attitude. I never mind about who is my friends. I can talk to them easily and comfortably because they are my friends. For the other persons who are transgneder or other...that I don't know them before, it is normally to change the appropriate word to speak to them. I want to make them comfortable to talk with me. Individually, I like to talk with other people who are the stranger for me because I learn them by speaking. I believe the persons must to express feelings, thoughts, attitude and so on pass the speaking.
However, the people who are transgender or other are not the difficult communication with me. I ready open mind to communicate with them. I'm not sure about the reason but I think I understand them.
I'm just a women who never confuse my gender and who can communicate with other people both like me or not.
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As your article, I am confusing that Am I a girl or not?
ReplyDeletehahaha..
In the past, I love to climb the trees, play with the boys and hate pink.
I think I have more musculinity than some boys, including my friend.
I have a friend who is boy. He is polite and quite. His physical appearance is smart. He always was considered to be a gay, but I don't think so. He is the last born of his family and he has older sister. I think he has influenced from his sister like dress politly or speak politly. It's cause of his sister and he has close relationship with his mom more than dad. Therefore, I try to explain everyone who ask me about my friend's gender.
And the joke is when I told them that he is a man, then they think he is my bf!! even my mom!!
Because we are very close relationship, be able to hug and holding hands.
I don't mind if someone will think like that because if I were them, I'll think like them also.
Now, he has a gf already...exempt me >.<
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I think it's important to know the gender of who I speak with because I can use the right way to communicate with them. People who are gay, lesbien, or transgender will be shy and don't want anyone know that they are. I think it's not good. They might be shy to be like this but we can accept the way they are. Don't be shy!!
ReplyDeleteI have a gay friend. First time he is very calm and hansome. His act is gentlemen. The way he communicate is look like a man. Then I communicate with him like he is a normal guy. After we are close friend, he is creep in gay. He likes man and his communication with me is changed! so i was a little surprise. Then I ask him when the first time we met, why he didn't show hid gender? He says he is shy and don't want people know his gender. He afraids that friends will make fun of him. After friends know his gender, no one make fun of him!
I think it's good to show ur gender because we can accept it!
have a nice long weekend :))
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ReplyDeleteWhen I read your article, I think the runner is the man but when I have read it. It make me surprised.
ReplyDeleteI cannot choose to be...
When I am born, I cannot choose my sexual, boy or girl. The social teach me what I must be. I am woman but sometimes I love boy things such as playi flighting game.
I have one friend, she is women like me. We are close friend. One day, when she was cut her hair and ware jeans like a boy. she looks strange. Our relationship is far away because she join the tomboy group.
Now, she turns to women again. I see her picture on hi5. She looks pretty.
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I have many friends that are gay, ladyboy, or tomboy. I never think they are different from other people. I agree that Thailand has one of the most open sexual cultures. I think these people are making a colorful society. >O<
ReplyDeleteNobody can deny that sometime these people make you enjoyable and have fun. In the past, many people think that these people are weir and can’t accept them in the society like in the present. I think they are trustful, so, I can communicate with them directly. Somebody think these people are talkative and like to gossip other people. But someone in these group act like that but it’s not always. Many people try to make a stereotype with them. Somebody can’t choose to be born but they can choose what they are.
Exactly, I have many ways to communicate with other gender. If I speak with men, I will choose an appropriate word to speak with them. Maybe polite or maybe not, it depends on the relationship between us. But if I speak with women, I always speak politely except my close friends because I can use a slang word when we talk together.
But for gay, lesbian, ladyboy, or tomboy, I will speak to them directly because as I know these people, they don’t think too much about how to communicate with them properly. But somebody, I have to be careful when I speak with them because they are sensitive.
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I am a private sexuality. I am a woman. I have many friends who are transgenders including tomboy, lesbian, hermaphrodite, and gay. I can communicate, study, and live with these friends like many friends who are private sexuality. In my opinion, I believe that environment and family are the factors which affect them became transgenders.
ReplyDeleteMy close friend lived with his aunt who is a beautician. He is a boy when he was young, but now he is a hermaphrodite and a missladyboy at the night club. In another case, my friend who is a girl but she always play with boy gang. Now, she is being a tomboy. However, they still get along well and familiar with me like when they was young. They still look like women that made me easy to communicate with them because I think they are just general women.
I agree with you that Thai culture is the social that mostly open sexual culture. Every genders are very free, so I can adapt myself and familiar with the transgenders friends easily. I think there are no barrier between communication.
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How is gender important in one society?
ReplyDeleteHello teacher,,,
As you see that gender roles is very sensitive for such a culture, it is the explicit feature for other people to observe that what gender a person is.
How about if the gender of each person has been changed to be another? I think sometime it causes some problems to them.
But for Thailand, it's quite open for this kind of case. I do have lots of gay and lesbian friends. I don't think it causes the problems to us, so the gender does not affects our communication at all, but i can feel that our identities are different. However, it doesn't matter. No matter if they are gays or lesbians, but if they are the good people, everything will be fine, right. Let's focus on their behaviors and habits rather than the gender.
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I'm not sure about the others, but for me as a Thai, if they all seem to be nice,no matter what gender they are,they can be my friends. They almost make no different for me in gender,so there's no need to treat any gender in the different way. I have no problem at all, even though I may find out later that they are gay or lesbien or others. Except, if we are in a relationship,ex husband and wife...and I found out that he's gay.....that will be a big problem! Family problem.
ReplyDeleteThank you for an interesting question. 4931006184
Your comments are very interesting. It makes me think about you and your new generation. You are extremely open-minded about this topic.
ReplyDeleteI wonder if I proposed this topic to a more masculine culture like Korea, Japan, or Italy... I'm sure the comments would be very different.
I am learning a lot from you. Gender doesn't seem to affect you very much (it is hard for me to know), but from your comments, I wonder if older generations would agree with you or not.
Well, this topic is very interested. In my opinion, it’s not affected for communication with me. Every time that I talk with them I feel very happy. They always make me fun, smile, and laugh. Sometimes, I am nervous but they can change my emotion also. I have many gays in my life too. They are good relationship for me. They are rather more sincere with everyone. I never feel between identities with them, but I feel more warmth when I talk with them. I think it’s not problem for communication if we are good relation with other.
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I feel it is not much different to communicate with them. Maybe when I am speaking to them, I am quite worry about the word I say. Sometimes, I have to care about my words in order to not effect to their feeling. I agree with you that Thailand has open sexual minorities. We can see from MFLU. Transgender or homosexual in MFLU feel free and they are so powerful like a gay town. However, most people can accept them.
ReplyDeleteIn high school, I have a lot of friends that they are girls like boy’s things. I can communicate with them easier because I think I am a girl like them. Although they are girls like boys, we can be friends absolutely. I communicate with them not different from my female friends. Sometimes I communicate with bisexual or transgender, I feel uncomfortable because I don’t know what they think. I try to keep smile and no more word. It doesn’t mean
I hate them but I don’t know what I should say with them. I think if we communicate each other frequently, we can learn their feeling, their behavior and their nature. I think at last I can communicate with them.
In my opinion, gender doesn’t have separate and specific but people in society are separate and specific “gender.” It makes someone was limited right and liberty.
Finally, Thank you for this question and have a good job.
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ReplyDeleteI used to ask my parents about gay or lesbians in thier generation.
My parents said that they never had a friend or knew anyone who is gay or lesbian before. Maybe in that time, Thai society was not open enough for gay or lesbian.
I also used to ask them that if I have a son(in the future) and he is a gay, what should I do. I really have no idea about this.
My boyfriend told me that if he has a son and he wants to be a lady, he would ask his son fisrt to make sure about what he wants to be and then let him to have plastic surgery or do anything to make him be like a real lady.
For me, I do know some people who are gay and homosexual. It is ok for me to talk with them and they are nice to me as well. When I talk with them, I feel normal like I talk with everyone. There is not much differences. Well, maybe I will avoid to talk some topic with them such as the topic about gay or lesbian in the negative way.
This topic is quite sensitive to talk for me.
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Good afternoon ka!!!! Aj. Matthew
ReplyDeleteI think it is interesting topic about transgender. I ever had a close friend who is gay. I think it is not affect my communication with him. Although he is a man or gay, he has some idea that other people have not. I can talk with him every story and every topic. For me, I think someone who is a lesbian is more affect my communication than someone who is gay, because most lesbians usually be quick-tempered. I don’t know the cause of that, and I don’t prejudice with them, but this event had ever happened with me and it made me think like this also. However, I had a close friend who is gay, sometimes I feel uncomfortable when I talk with him as well, because I think we are different identities.
For me, I absolutely confirm that I am a girl 100%,and I like to play dolls and babies like other girl play. Moreover, I like to do in the girl’s things also and I don’t like to play gun, soldier, or boy’s thing. Maybe I don’t have brothers or sister and I was instilled
since I was young that I am a girl.
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Good Morning Aj;
ReplyDeleteIn my idea, to know the gender of people is quite important, because I can communicate with that person promptly.
I used to see someone, I didn't know he/she is female or male. That's confuse me so much. I thought I could take off his/her clothes to prove that person is he or she.
Sometimes, I talked with the transgender person, I didn't know that I need to call that person as male or female.
Those confused sexual people have a problem with a restroom too. Sometimes, I saw the ladyboy in girl restroom. I think that is not appropriate because she is a man indeed.
I have heard that there is a ladyboy who has already cut out his penis [I'm sorry]. He confused that he needed to live in the dorm of boy or girl. That's a problem.
In the society, we have to communicate with other people both formal and informal. Consequently, we need to care to know the gender. If anyone thinks that is not important, he/she should stay alone in the Amazon.
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ReplyDeleteThis topic is very interesting for me.
Firstly, I will tell you, I am lesbian. I like tomboy. I have many transgender friends. I can get along with my friends and other people. I feel free. So I think I do not affect in communication with other people. On the other hand, I feel very bad with some guys who want change me to normal gender. I do not understand them. Although I am lesbian, I am ordinary girl. I do not something bad to society. When I do something, I think I know it's right or wrong. Moreover, the causes of being lesbian are different. For me, it is very sensitive. It is something that still in my mind since I was young.
"If I can choose my gender, I will choose to be a ordinary girl as others. Nobody wants to be a MONSTER in others' sight."
Nowadays, Thai society can accept transgenders much more. We have the abilities and idea as others. We can work and do everything as normal gender. Therefore,please don't look at me as a monster!
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Have a nice day
My handsome teacher!
Good afternoon..AJ.Matthew>>(^_^)”
ReplyDeleteI’m so glad to discuss this topic.
I think that gender is not difficult to me for communication with other people. I can talk and live with everyone. I have many friends who are transgender, gay, tomboy, and so on. Most of them can make me feel good, not uncomfortable.
I think the gender is not important, but it depends on that person is good or not. If they always do the right things even they is transgender, it maybe good than the person who is a man that do the wrong.
However, everyone cannot choose to be born but they can choose to do the good things.
Have A Nice Day Na kah…<^_^>
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Good evening, Ajarn Matthew
ReplyDeleteWell, I think about this point that gender is important in the communication because when we speak to someone we will know what gender they are. After that, our style of talking will different. For me, I have lots of friends, who are gay, lesbian, ladyboy and tomboy. I feel free with us. We are friends. We can talk and share ideas with them in easily. I don’t know how to say about identities between girl that like boy’s thing and boy that like girl’s thing because it’s the same and gender story quite sensitive to talk for me but sometimes I feel strange with their words and emotion also.
Apart from the story of Caster Semenia who is a runner from South Africa, she is stronger than another ladies and she is without drugs use for make her strong. I understand her because may be it depends on her nationality or surrounding environment to make her look like that.
I absolutely agree with you about Thai culture in new generation can accept in this point because Thais are open mind in third gender.
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As you know, Thailand is an open sexual culture that we can see many gay, lesbian and transgender people in Thai society.
ReplyDeleteEspecially, in our university there are a lot of gay, lesbian, and transgender.
Sometime, I feel a little bit strange to talk with them because in my social (home town, religion roles) quite not except these kind of people.
I also have many friends of gay or transgender and I can communicate with them as well. Because, I think I can talk to everybody who is good for me.
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I think to know other gender befroe we talk with them is important. If I know their gender, when i talk with them i know what i have to do in that moment(about manner).
ReplyDeletesometime gender effect to the communication style, how i talk to them or the way i communicate with them. But I think it no problem to talk with gay or transgernder because I have many friends that are transgerder. Any way all of gerder we can live togerther in the world that is the good thing.
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ReplyDeleteI agree with you that Thai society is the open sexual cultures because there are widely performances of gay or lesbian or transgender or other.Our university is a good example of gay gender's society because it is quite a normal thing here and students mostly accept it.
I am female but my friends usually confuse about my gender. Because I have a girlfriend, they may think that I am lesbian. I do not know how to specify my gender because I prefer to be with female but I had a boyfriend for once. Moreover, I think it is about the individually feeling of mine and the attitude. I have a bad attitude to male’s body and behavior. I hate the beard, sweat, muscle-flexing, and !! of male and lots of men who come to talk to me or flirt want to have sex with me mostly without sincerity. For that reasons, it makes me have a very bad attitude with men. Furthermore, I do not feel different when I am around my friends or other because I think it is not a bad thing and it does not harm to anybody. Gay gender is not a new thing for us; on the other hand, it has a history but no one pay attention to them until it is widely as present therefore a special attention paid to them. Especially in Thailand, there is lots of gay gender; on the contrary, most of people cannot accept it because of cultural. Thailand has no any history and the law for gay or lesbian or transgender or other so homosexuality is still a strage thing for Thai.
Finally, I feel comfortable to talk with gay gender people and it does not affect my communication with them at all.
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ReplyDeleteI have to say that sex is effects my communication in many way. When I talk with guys I always using slang or rude words like guys talk to each other. Even not that much like guys talk to guys but I think that this way of my communication will decrease the sex barrier between us. Moreover, when I talk with girls I always use softer and more polite than talking to guys.
I think the way to communicate across sex or gender is very sensitive because some topic we can talk to them but in some we cannot.
And what I like about gay or lesbien is they have the specific word or style of conversation which make sense just in their group, but no one out-group cannot understand.
So, sexualities effects my way to communication because of the content of topics we talk. Some topic maybe fine in some group depen on what sex are you talking to.
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ReplyDeleteThis morning was really cold, and I liked it a lot :)
This is a very interesting story. I have never heard about a person that has mixed male and female biology before. I used to think about it when I was in my first or second year in college, but I didn't think that this could be real. The idea came to me when I've been studying at Mae Fah Luang University for a while. We have a lot of gay and lesbian here. Surely, I've seen people who are the third gender and back then it seemed normal to me. On the other hand, I didn't pay much attention to them. I think we used to have less gays and lesbians in the past because I only knew three or four gays throughout high school.
Do you know that Thai don't have the same meaning for calling different gender? Let me explain more. We use the term "gay" for calling a guy who likes a guy that acts manly. Ka-toey for calling a guy who talks, dresses and acts girly. I bet you've seen many of them here already ;) We also use this term for calling transgender, but it is better to call them the third gender. Lesbian is used the same as in English.
I think knowing someone's private sexuality is good in order to communicate because you will know how to communicate with the person better, what subject would be interesting to talk about and what subject should be avoided. Actually, I do have friends who are gay. They are really fun to hang out with because I get to laugh so hard about their jokes whenever I am with them. Some of them are really nice people and really smart too. The communication between me and my gay friends has never been a problem because I consider them like my girl friends. One of my gay friends used to hide his true gender and I was glad he showed who he really was later. Because at first I didn’t know that he is gay, it was quite uneasy to communicate with him. I didn’t know what to talk about because I didn’t think he would be interested in girls’ things.
At times I feel in between identities because I like boys’ things such as clothing, shoes, gun shooting and BB gun, kick-boxing, and material arts. I talk and act the same as a guy sometimes, but it doesn’t matter to me because I’m still a 100% girl. I think having some masculine personalities such as being strong isn’t a bad thing at all. Even the guys usually look for the girls who gender, sensitive, shy and behave like a good girl should do, these are just what the society wants girls to be. I don’t like the fact that I cannot do something or go somewhere because I am not strong enough or because I am a girl. My parents always worry about where I go and what I do. Sometimes I wish I was a boy so I could do anything I want and my parents wouldn’t be so worry about me.
I totally agree with you that Thailand has one of the most open sexual cultures. It might not be a really bad thing, but I can tell that it is very confusing especially when you have to figure out someone’s gender. I try many times and always get the wrong answer. It’s difficult to tell about people gender like yesterday in the class when you showed us some pictures. I was shocked when I know the face that a woman in the picture was not a real woman but a transgender. She looked very much like a real woman.
I wonder what the real reason of changing gender is. The way their parents raise them or because of their biology.
Have a really good long weekend!!
Good night.
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Peered Hongto
ID 503-1006-013
Section 01
Hi Ajarn. I’m sorry that I cannot come on Tuesday’s class. By the way, the topic in the week is about gender. In my opinion, I think that gender is important to people in every society. It indentifies people’s status and rights to do anything. I know that masculine and feminine are different, but if they do anything by their ability and legality, that is fine. Thought Thai society is less open gender than western society, both male and female can do in right way or legality rather than in the past time. I don’t mind male, female or even transgender if they do in right way and being good people. Every gender can live together peacefully, if they do not make problems. However, people cannot change their gender in reality, but people can be as they wish.
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Hi Aj.Matthew
ReplyDelete5555++ I think that our blog discussion this week is very interesting let's see !! there are many of participants are seemed interested in this topic to discuss.
I really agree with Aj.Matthew that Thai has one of the most open sexual cultures. Like my experience, I have many friends are gay and
lesbian (I called them the hybrid sexual after I have learned it in class 555++).I think they are quite free about their sexual. I'm a one who like to know many think of them(hybrid) such as what do you think about your sexual? or Why you are lesbian/gay?, I asked them because I think that it is very open now!. They answered very clearly(it is quite gloom of them)and I said that you don't seriouse about that because I'm your friend, so now really feel open-mind about it althrough I still confused about transsexualism of them.
Actually,in the previously I did not get about them and I felt it is a problem for me to communicate with them. However, it is very open in nowaday. Our Thai culture are changed but some gruop of people never accept it or quite hard to make it normal.
Namely, in Muslim culture. I'm a Muslim and I think it is hard to make us accept transsexual
in our culture even through I think I really open about it because I have many culture to
communicate and I can touch it by my experience also. Then, I think it is no matter that why are you, but we just commnunicate with, such if you are good friend!!!! You are OK with me!
Asmara
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Hello Aj. Matthew!!
ReplyDeleteI think that that topic is very interesting becauseMea fah Luang University have more gay or lesbian or transgender or other.... 5555+
In general, men and women communicate differently.Why are some people transgender? There is no one generally accepted explanation for why some people are transgender.
For the question, I think it does not afeect my communication or identities. They are human and I am human too. When I talk with someone, I do not know that they are gay, lesbian or transgender or not. The communication of them, they have more slang words that other people do not know.
Sometime they are interesting because they have more energy or power. For example, "Paradise Show" that have only the transgender or have some men or women. One of them may be my friends.
Therefore, I think that the communication does not make the effect for the other gender or the same gender.
Pemiga Tinnikorn
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SEC: 02
Hello, Aj Matthew
ReplyDeleteFor your question, I think I do not have a problem about communicate with a transgender, gay or lesbian. Actually, I have many friends that are a gay and lesbian. We never have problem. I understand their feeling. Even though, sometimes I do not understand their language. You know? Many gay or lesbian have a special language to talk in their group, but it can not obstruct our relationship.
Actually, I love gay. It means I really love gay and want to make relationship with gay. You know? In love with a gay guy. Yes, I mean like that. I always fall in love with gay. You might be confuse “what does it mean?" "why you need gay to be your boyfriend?" I don't know what wrong with me. I feel comfortable and relax, when I live with them. I think a gay guy have something that attractive distance of women. we will feel free and feel be ourselves when we talk with them, and yes. I feel like that. Absolutely I don’t have a problem to communicate with them.
Wai 5031006160
Section 2
Hi Aj Matthew
ReplyDeleteThe weather still keeps cold.
Thanks for the story; it is great and I wonder what she is going to do next after all happened? It's just unfair to her.
I don't have many friends in my life and few of them are homosexual. As I notice, I don't have problems in communicating with my homo friends. Sexuality is not that important to me when I talk to my friends or people. It's not about the gender but the issues that I choose to talk to people with different sexes because generally, men and women or homosexual people have main interests differently. When I talk to my homo friends, I just talk about something they do like or related to them but the way I talk wouldn't change no matter who I'm talking with. One thing that changes my communicating way is the status of a person.
It is sympathetic that these homo people are still others. It's like there is no proper place for them on earth. Many heterosexual people still discriminate them as if it is the mistake by homo themselves. Even though Thailand may be a sexually open country, what really matters if homo people have limitations in many things that hetero people don't? I think a homo person would think that he/she doesn't really want to be something in the middle because it must be hard to live that way. Personally, this might be a factor of a problem for people to communicate with other genders.
Have a wonderful morning and a great day.
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Section: 02
Hi, Aj. Matthew
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing this story. I think it would be hard for her to accept this situation, and of course, no one want to be a hermaphrodite, and this isn't her false to be like this. However, I feel sorry for her.
For me, I have no problem to communicate with gay, lesbian, or transgender freinds. I know how to talk with them properly, and I agree that Thailand is the one that open sexual culture, because we can see that there’re many gay or lesbian holding hand.
I think it’s not a big problem for our society if they express in proper way, but I don’t know what others think. My family is Chinese, and they’re also serious about this because they’re old generation.
Once I went to China with my friends and I met my ex-teacher. Then I hugged her and said ‘Wo Ai Ni’ (I love you) and she shocked. She explained to me that in China you cannot say ‘Wo Ai Ni’ to the same sex, because others will think that you’re lesbian or gay, but you can say ‘Wo Xihuan Ni’(I like you). This made me felt very embarrassed and I explained to her that in Thailand they didn’t mind about this.
However, I think it’s not effect to my communication, but others are.
Have a nice day!
Mew ID: 5031006180
Section: 02
When I want to communicate with transgender, I will think about “” what are they made from?” It a little bit sounds strange. Try to imagine if you are going to talk with a lady man. He has absolutely masculine biology but completely feminine personalities. Then, you cannot behave to him like he is a real man but you should behave as he is a woman. If you meet him somewhere and you hug him as you usually do to your male friends, you might let your face to be slapped.
ReplyDeleteGenerally, I always communicate with people’s inside (mind) but not outside (body). The external appearances might tell you what sex he/she is, but not everything that he/she really is. You have to look deep inside a little bit more if he is your friend.
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Hi. Aj,matthew
ReplyDeleteFor the topic in this week, I'm no idea about this situation. In the real that you told a students in the calss. Gender is important when we have to communacate for each other. Because I am a woman I really feel great to talk with the same sex more than a other. From the sentence you said that "Thailand has one of the most open sexual cultures that I have ever experienced."
In my family, it cannot open sexual culture. I think there are many families cannot agree about gays, lesbians, or other. Most of parents hope in there childrends to be a stranger sex. I am a one of a group that cannot accept about open sexual. That turely, I got friends that they are gays or lesbians. But I cannot agree about there lover. I cannot explain why I cannot accept about that. By the way, If they are gays, lesbians, or other I will wish they are a good person and do not disturb our society as well.
Parichat Poomthong
ID: 5031006048 Section:03
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ReplyDeleteHello
ReplyDeleteWell, I 'd like to say that the topic is very interesting and so complicated to answer about it. For me, I dojnt think that it should know about what gender they are, we just do sth polite for the stranger but fir friends, I think we will know by ourselves without asking about gender and we would know how to do or communicate with them even they are transgender. I dont think it difficult to communicate with transgender. Maybe Thai society has this things since ancient, so we know how to communicate and act with transgender.
ID: 5031006012 Section: 02
Hi, Aj. Matthew
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely as you know, in Thailand is an open sexual culture. In particular, our University that you can see, there are a lot of gay, lesbian, tomboy, and transgender.
I think, these groups are pretty people, especially gay that whenever I see them that they would be wear a skirt and walk like a woman. It always makes me smile and happy. It makes me think that they dare to make the thing what are theirs love or interest that it do not trouble other people. So, they may be the model for some people who not dare to make or face with whatever they love or want. Although, I never have a friend whoever is transgender before but I think that it is not difficult to me for communication because I can talk with other people whoever good for me.
ID: 5031006193 Sect: 02
Hi, Aj.Matthew
ReplyDeleteThe topic in this week is very interesting information. I think the people who were born like this is very pity. For example, from the person who is a runner name is Caster Semenia, she get a blame from others, but in the truth she has something else inside of her. It is the thing that nobody knows.
However, about sexuality, I think it is never been a problem for me, because it is depends on the people. It is their right of human. I will judge a people from their behavior, if they are a good person. It is not a problem for me.
Name: THANK YOU*
ID: 5031006022 Section: 03
Hello, Aj.M
ReplyDeleteI would like to say that I daren't to communicate with the boy who like to be the girl or vise versa. I don't understand why I feel like that, but I know that how can I communicate with them. sometimes, I feel the language we use with them is the middle space. I don't know what is the specail languages of these groups. Sometimes, I talk with them, but it makes them dissatisfied cause of the language I communicate with them. However, when we are in the same society we have to accept these groups of people and have to communicate with them. We will learn their identity and vowel that they express to the society and I think we will know how to communicate with them.
I am a female who want to act as a female script that our society teachs us to do. It is the tacit knowledge that I don't understand why it is like that and why this script is universal. Every society know that female and male have to be like that. It's interesting to keep thinking, but I can't find the answer. It's so confused as you said!
See you in class of second quizz!
Have a nice dream!!
"GBU" Aj.M
M Y M I N T -_-ZZz
ID:5031006062 Sec.01
Hello Aj.M
ReplyDeleteI am also have many friends in different gender such as boys, girls, gays, lesbians and so on. When I have to comunicate with them, I will use the different language. Each gender has some special speech, slang, tone and so on that I shold know when comunicate with them. However, it depened on the familiar with each person. If I talk with the person that very familiar with me, the language that I use will be as same as everyone even they don't have same gender as me. To conclusion, in my opinion I think the way to comunicate with people is base on the familiarity. If I comunicate with the people that are very close to me, I will use same level of language to comunicate with them and don't mind about their gender or other factors.
Mean 5031006103 Sec.3
Hola!!! Aj. Matthew,
ReplyDeleteFrom you question, I have an experinces to share with you again. lol
In the first year, I wore the white-pink sneaker. When one guy saw my sneaker, he asked me that "Are you a gay?"
I was really mad and upset with him.
The other story, I always talk polilety to all of female but not always for male. In that day, I went to the pub. I talked with one girl. I talked the way I am which said "Krub" before finished the sentences. Then, she asked me one question "I am sorry, Are you a gay?".
What the . . .? -______________-"
For the first story, I shouted to him that I am absolutely a man. Do you want to fight? [kind of stupid but I was really mad in that time]
For the second, I answerd to her that I am completely a man and told her I always talked politely to female because my mom taught me to give respect to all female even you do not like her.
Some of my clothes or sneakers are pink or colorful. Many people ask me the same question. I always tell them that I am a man.
If they do not belief, I will say to them that "Please give me you girl and you will find how much I am a man". lol
Thank you and have a good night
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Good morning aj. M…
ReplyDeleteThis is a good story and it surprises me! Well, if I do not see the right side picture, I think, this wonderful runner is a man, because I see a strong stomach; a muscular and a short hair. But she also has a beautiful smile and wears a makeup like other women on the left side. Hmm..Good for her, but it is complicated for me ha. Suppose that, if I see her at the race in Chiang Rai, and she asks me a direction to a toilet. How can I tell her the correct direction if I do not know her gender? May be I have to guess. But if I have a wrong idea guessing her gender, I will have a wrong communication with her, too.
I think, it absolutely affects my communication with people who are in third space. Because I have to change my communication and interaction to be more comfortable, when I am talking to them. I have known a lot of ladyboy and gay when I was in high school. They were my lovely friends. For example; I always speak softly to ladyboys because they were almost the same as women, and some of them were very attractive like women…ha. I could talk about woman’s things to them, but when they got mad at me, they always spoke loudly with their deep voice (men’s voice). I was scared at that time. And I was confused at that moment because sometimes they were as like as women, but sometimes they were not. And I am a female that like a girl’s things; stick with friends talking about girl’s magazines, and girl’s clothing. I love all girls’ things, they attract me very much. I do not why, but I like them.
Certainly, I do agree with you that Thailand is an open country because we have some kinds of modern culture mixing in the conservative. And I think, Thai society is feminine culture that has a lot of transgender people. It will be strange for some people who are not able to understand it. And it will make them wonder that why does someone change his/ her gender? However, we should accept and learn to communicate with them because there are not just feminine and masculine cultures, but there is a transgender culture also. ^_^
See you in class!
ID# 5031006055
Section: 02
Thank you for your good story again and again *-*
ReplyDeleteFrom your story, I very surprise that Caster Semenia has male testicles. Moreover, she has not the uterus. I really wonder that how does she feel. Is she happy or not. However, we cannot blame her in this problem because if she has other choices, she may not need to be like this, but sometimes she may need. It is unusual in her biology that she cannot control. If I am the competition committee, I think I cannot do any thing because she does not do any thing wrong.
Back to your question, I think gender is very important in communication for me. For example, if I talk with female, I usually speak more polite and cannot speak loudly. I cannot speak sex story. The most important that I cannot talk with female is male is better than female. But some female I can talk freely because they are my close friend. In terms of male, I can talk with them loudly. I can say some slang word. I can touch them and can stay or sit closely. If I talk with gay, I have to say very loud if we compare with female and male. I have to use more body movement with hands, head etc. Besides I have to use the high voice and tone which is irregular.
In my life, I have a lot of homosexual friends. I usually ask him that are they need to be like this. Is homosexual is a fashion. Can they change their behavior and thought? They usually say that if they have the choice, they do not need to stay in the middle way. It is very difficult to do every thing in the social. They need to be normal people. It is not the fashion but they do not know how they are homosexual. They say that they may not change the behavior because it is very difficult to change their mind. Even though they are homosexual, they are very happy and waiting social for accepting them more.
Pink 5031006228
Hello Aj. Matthew.
ReplyDeleteI am the one who have many
gay/lesbian friends.
I don’t have a prejudice with
their sexuality.
I think all of them are my friends and
they have many interesting thing
in their mind.
I love all of them. I think they
have a little point that make them understand me more than a normal people.
I think they are very sensitive when they communicate with other.
They know what they have to talk.
They know how to make them impressed or
sit in other’s mind.
They know who want to talk with them or not.
I think many of gay/lesbians have
a fantastic talent.
Some is a very good at designing.
Some is very good at dancing.
Some is very good at acting. What ever…
They still have some different part from us.
When I communicate with them
I feel more comfortable than
the normal people.
Maybe, they don’t have a mask
covered their face.
They don’t have to fake. T
hey know what they are.
Thus, I think it is good
idea for them to have equal rights
as same as the normal people.
About your story…
I think sometime it’s hard to
judge people gender,
because of their body.
It should have someone to take care of them.
They don’t do anything wrong.
Such as in the competition, it
should have their
special match or give them in
the special price.
They have the many skill and abilities to show that they are
also a smart person.
ID: 5031006037
Section: 03
Hi Aj. Matthew
ReplyDeleteAfter i read your story im very surprise that she has mixed male and female biology because ive never heard it before. its make me get more knowledge. Thank you very much :)
In Thailand, i think we have gay more than lesbian because when i studied in high school, my classmates are gay a lot. They said they are very proud to be like this but i dont know why(never dare to ask) and when i talk to them i have to speak carefully because i heard that if i made them angry, they will be an evil so i think i prefer not to talk to them because i dont know how to communicate with them and dont want to get a problem but they might be a good person ^_^
ID : 5031006039 Section 03
I pity her so much because she get a blame and gossip from others. I think sometimes she may feel bad, sad, and hopeless because many people can't understand the abnormality of herself.Badly,people think that she is ugly frightful,and strange because she just have different thing.Most of people don't accept her and they are also discuss about her body. I think Caster Semenia should get the fairness from others and everyone should give a chance to her. I wish people in the world understand her and think that she is human like us.She has feeling and thinking like us.So, she can feel bad, angry, and hurt when someone blame or look down on her.
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, Caster Semenia did not want to be strange or has the different thing from others.If she can choose her gender and body by herself,I think she will choose the best body, normal gender, and good personality for herself absolutely because everyone want to be perfect.But in real,she can't do like that. So, she must confront with many problems and try to accept it. For me, I don't judge someone because of their personality or appearance but I will judge them from their goodness and behavior. For this case, I like and admire her because she is a good person of South Africa.She can make fame for her country and she can get the triumph and became successful runner. Although Caster Semenia is intersexuality, she can be a good person of her society and she won other runners without cheating.
Additionally,I known more about her thinking from Thai magazine. I like her speech because she said that " I love my body and proud of myself because I get it from the god and my parents." It represent that she has high self-esteem and didn't look down on herself.For me, she is a good person and the gender has never been a problem to me if they are good person.
" I ❤ Caster Semenia " HAVE A GOOD DAY
Thank you !!! ^_^
Miss Metta Noionpo "Mickey"
ID:5031006068
Hello Aj. Matthew…
ReplyDeleteIt doesn’t matter that the person whom I talk is a transgender; it’s not affect my communication.
I have a lot of transgender friends and some of them become my close friend.
I always think that every human is all the same (we have the same right.) Also, I understand them; they cannot should what the gender they born to be, however they should the way they are. I think that is a very good way to be what we want to be; life is too short to be like another.
It’s not serious when a person is not a male or a female. Same like the road, we cannot just turn left or turn right but we can go straight.
On the other hand, the different opinion can affect my communication. Even as, I try to understand another sharing ideas but another’s do the different way. The communication will be broke.
Hence, it’s no matter what gender they are, but it’s up to what’re their opinion, thought, and ideas.
Have a nice weekend ^_______________^
Am, 503 1006 108 Section 2
You're comments are all very interesting for this week. They are very wide. There are many different opinions and experiences...
ReplyDeleteMany of you don't care about gender, because it only matters if someone is good or not.
Some say they are confused about it or cannot affect.
Other people say that they feel sorry or feel pity for someone like Semenia.
Like what Zimmerman & Geist-Martin said: "Why is it so important to decide?" About gender... why is it important for people? And like the quotation that I posted: "My sexuality has never been a problem to me but I think has been for other people."
I think people like Caster do not need pity. Nobody wants pity. People want to participate in culture... but is culture open enough to accept a third space without clear rules for communication? I'm not sure that we're prepared for this.
Good Afternoon Aj. Matthew
ReplyDeleteFor this topic, I think transgendered persons are very normal in Thailand. Many times I cannot tell that a person who I see is a man or a woman because I think I see the woman, but when I heard her voice, I am very surprised and know that she is the man.
Nowadays Thai society opens widely about the transgendered persons. I think they are accepted more than the past. Many people cannot accept those persons. In the past, the transgendered persons are looked to be the strange persons. Some people do not talk and blame the persons who are gay or tomboy. On the other hand, when we notice around us, we will see many transgendered persons; may be they are our kinships or our friends. For me, I think the transgendered persons are quite special because they are good in many fields such as education, communication, showing, and so on. When I was in wherever and talked with my transgendered friends, I think I feel better than when I talked with some female or male friends. May be, when I talked with my transgendered friends, I feel I was talking with my male and female at the same time.
However, if we want to have a comfortable communication, we should know what his/her gender. I think it will good for both sides.
Thank you,
5031006002 ^^
Hi Aj. M,
ReplyDeleteI'm very surprise that she has a mixed gender. I wonder why if she is a mixed gender,she has a penis or not. She has male testicles but why we don't consider she is a man. It's very confusing.
Nowadyas, Thailand is open society. People can do what they want, even transgender. I accept these people because I also has friends who are not man or girl. They live in a space.
Mic 5031006129
Hi...Aj.M
ReplyDeleteI agree that communication is something like tacit knowledge and I think that we will know how to communicate automatically while we have to speak with other.
I agree that gender is just the way that societies group us. I don’t know why but it is also tacit because we don’t know but we have to be like that.
Every society has their own way to communicate but they also know the middle way to communicate with other as well. For example…the gay or lady boy is the easiest group of people that we will see their identity through their communication. Their words, their act or their voice may different which is up to the person they talking to.
I think that it is not a big deal to communicate with other who may different in the orientation with me because I know the way of middle way to communicate with each group of them. I think it doesn’t matter because we can be friend by don’t care which gender they are. ^----^
Hello Aj. Matthew
ReplyDeleteAll about Caster Semenia story, I have never known it before. After I have read, I think it is very interesting about hermaphrodite. For Thai myth, some of people believe that, this kind of people had a sin in the past life. Thus, they do not same as other people. However, I think it is only abnormality in their body not the sin.
I have an experience about the communication with the people who is not particular like me. Last Christmas ago, I had shown the dialogue play with my friends. One of them is a gay but he did not confess at that time. However, some of the people know what he is.
I acted as a Mary (Mother of Jesus) and one gay he acted as Joseph who is represented as the biological father of Jesus. At that time, there are many problems on my head; I did not remember how I walk on the stage. Then he asked me about his play. I really was upset why he did not read his script because I really serious in my play. I did not answer his question because I had to remember my script. He scolded me. Then I countered him and I was cry because I did not understand why he scolded me. For Thai people, it is so bad that man scold women (I do not know how about other culture think that). While I was cry, my friends came to ask me and whisper to me that he is not a man. Do not care about him. He is a gay and he has behavior like woman.
I think when we must communicate with gay or other. It is necessary to know before communicate. Sometime, it can be a cause of problem and miscommunication.
Gender is a confusing and complicated subject like you said. I really agree that.
Have a nice weekend na kha.
Mary 503 1006 025 Sec.3
Hi Aj. Matthew,
ReplyDeleteI think, there may have a problem in the communication if something that we say can hurt those people feeling.
I am one of many people who has gay close-friend. I used to think that he is the best as I can share my feeling to him but it’s not. Later on since I spent time and hang out with feel, there are so many thing that I’ve expressed hurt his feeling and I didn’t know that. I realize that I need to be more careful when I say something to him.
Have a good one!
4931006022
When I was a child, I saw a strange woman; she was strong and tall. Her voice like a man but at that time I didn’t know the strange woman is a man. I saw men touch the strange woman’s body and they used rude word about sex to her. The men were laugh, I thought it is joke.
ReplyDeleteWhen I grow up I know the strange woman is a man, he is a man but his mind is a woman. Sometimes, I afraid transgender because they will be make up more and wear strange dress.
And when I am a young, I have many friend were transgender. I like their ideas that are creative for everything; it makes people accept them into group. Words that we say together are rude or funny word that they are creates for using in group. I like listen to them but sometimes I don’t because it is very rude for me. I think they are funny and lovely for me almost the time.
Miss Kornkanok Nonthanum
ID. 5031006004 Section.3
Hola Aj. Matthew
ReplyDeleteI have commented on this blog but I think that I have something to say.
Thai society is open for now.
I think it is not because many people especially old people still disagree with transgenger or third sex.
Please think about this. If we comepare with some white poeple who are not expect black people in the society, what do you think?
Is it the same as we do not except transgender or third sex?
Just the questions and I want to know your opinion about it.
Thank you so much.
5031006176 sec02
Hi Aj.Matthew
ReplyDeleteFor me, though I do not like "Tomboy", but I do not have any problem in communicating with a gay, lessbian, or any gender.
I am the one who has many third-gender friends.
I think everyone has the value in each. We cannot judge the value of each person by the gender because sometime the third-gender person can do the big work greater than men, and women.
I am not a gay, but I want to show my idea that we can live together with every gender and we should to give the chance to the third-gender in the social.
Thank you so much.
5031006185 section 02
Hello Aj.Matthew
ReplyDeleteI think I'm the last one here in your blog.
Actually I have many things to share in your blog but there is something wrong with my computer (I try to post it many times :( )
well, from your question, I don't have any problems when communicate with transgender.
I have many friends who are transgender, so that is why I feel free to talk to them.
but I have one thing to share in this blog is when people first talk to transgender person, they should not talk about something sensitive like Men and Women's role as we know in culture ascription.
we are all friends!!
there will no problem if we communicate to each other with peace :)
LEK 5031006128
section : 03
Hi,…,Aj. M
ReplyDeleteFor this week, I have a lot of thing to do and make it clear for a short period; it’s very terrible.
Move to our topic “Thailand is one of the countries to open sexual culture”, I don’t understand why everything seems different from the past; it will go to another way. Having third space in the society, I think it may be the cause of other problems i.e. some human right request.
In my opinion, opening the new society for people who are third space, I don’t agree with, because the new generation maybe gets the more changing. More society opens widely, more changing.
Which way Thailand will go, you are the decider.
GoOD NiGht Kaaaaa….Aj.
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ID: 5031006040
Section: 02
Luck,
ReplyDeleteThe gender question is similar but not equal to the race question. We will have a race lesson this week. There is inequality and confusion, and it affects all cultures. Keep you question in mind.
Hi, Aj. Matthew
ReplyDeleteAs you said,Caster Semenia, She is a woman.TT
Ok! I agree with that but I don't really think to pretend her as a woman. haha She looks frightful for me. If I suppose that we married, but onceday we have conflicts each other. Maybe she will kick me instead of me who kick her. oo Be frightened, when I think about it.
However, I studied in the boy highschool. There is only male gender in this school. So, there are many gays and bisexuals. They are my friend. I don't have any problem to talk with. However there are many kind of gay: severe, kind, polite, aggressive, ans so on. I must choose; I fear.TT
Many people who meet me first time. They always thought that "Are you gay?". Oh man, I don't be like that anyway.
Consequently, I think you should be who you are. you should be what your gender is. you should do the same things like that gender should do. I think it's very appropriate.
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Hello! Aj.Matthew
ReplyDeleteI'm Chariya Sawangsri 5031006010 Section 01
I agree with you that you said we will choose the particular way to communicate with others by looking at their gender. I have a lot of friends who are lesbian and gay. For lesbians, they are girl, I communicate with them normally way, because they are girl like me, and I don't think they will love me as a lover. It is difficult because we are friends as the beginning. But, for the gays, I always talk fun with them, but I will not touch them like girl friends, because I think they are men. It is dangerous to touch them like girl friends, maybe sometimes they feel with me like a lover; I think they keep feeling of men in their heart. There is some space between us. However, it is comfortable to communicate with them more than real men. When I talk with men, it is differrent absolutely. I am not insolent with them.
According you said "Thailand has one of the most open sexual cultures that I have ever experienced", I strongly agree with that quote, because even we change style of communication when we talk with each gender or even transgender, but no one hate them. we just select the appropriate way to communicate with them. Thais open about this so much. I love Thai culture, it is easy for living.
Hi Aj.Matthew
ReplyDeleteFor this week,
In my opinion, I do agree with you that we will choose the proper language by looking the gender of others first. I think it is polite to opponent we communicate.
On the other hand, it doesn't matter for me to communicate with trangender and many of them become my close friends. I always feel free to talk with them.
Finally, I believe that the value of life depends on the way people act.
Thank you
Have a nice day ^_^
Lak
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Hi, Aj.Matthew
ReplyDeleteThis is the interesting topic!!!
I feel pity with her story. If I faced with this problem, I might feel very ashamed and don't know how to live in society. I think it quite hard to accept, but time might be cure it better.
About your questions, I have transgender friends-gay,tomboy, and lesbian. I think sexuality affect to me when communicate with them. My word will change to slang or impolite words. ( my word will change into rude words if they talk to me first and it depends on the topic) I think it not a problem or a gap between our communication, but sometimes I feel scare with their voices. And sometimes, our thought quite differnt, it takes a long time to understand in the same way. However, presently, our society was opened for third space; therefore, all genders should adept both communication and thought.
Nan ^_____^
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When I have to speak to woman, I have to change my speaking styles because I am a man. However, there is not a problem for me to speak with gays or lesbians or other transgender.
ReplyDeleteIf their gender is male, I will recognize them as a man and I will speak to them same as normal man. If their gender is female, I will recognize them as a woman and I will speak to them more polite even if they are a tomboy.
Besides, I do not have much friends who are gay or lesbian or transgender. Therefore, I do not have much problem.
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Hello, Aj M
ReplyDeleteI have a experience and feeling to share to you related the subject.
From my expereince, I have a few transgender friends, but in my gang, I have a lot of real male friends and real female friends. I never have transgender friends in my group.
I always have difficulties to talk with them. I feel uneasy and unfamiliar to talk with them because I dont know how to talk with them. So I try to AVOID it and talk if it's nescessary.
I dont know which way is a proper to talk with.
Should I talk to them like I always talk with my group?
I REALLY dont know why and how.
Sometimes, I have to see my friends talk with them, and then
I copy it that way they are talking. It is not natural.
However, I feel more comfortable to talk with boy girls than girl boys because I still realize that they are still female in biology.
I feel safe and good.
That's all my opinion to share with you, Aj Matthew. ^^
Have a nice day,
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Hello there Aj.Matthew
ReplyDeletethis is my first time visiting your blog. I am so sorry I didn't participate since the really first time.
By the way, I think I can accept those who are in the third space that we have talk in class. It would be very easier if the society just accept for what they choose to be as soon as it doesn't affect negatively to the society.
For me, I don't mind them, I don't mind at all but when I get to talk with them, I have to change the way I speak and be more careful of what I said, it might hurt them.
Overall, every single human is human. No matter what sex or gender they are.
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i have gay and lesbian friends, sometimes i feel more uncomfortable to talk with real male than gay friends, i feel like i speak with female. moreover, they also have an interesting and funny topics to talk with.
ReplyDeleteone of my friends changed to be girl boy, she has girlfriend, i was shocked a little bit when she told me, but it was fine. for her family, it is a difficult times for her to tell her family especially her father and she still keep it as a secret. she said that her father will know in someday and hopefully that he will understand her. hard study is the only way that she can does amd makes her father pround of her as a good daughter.
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Hi Aj.Matthew
ReplyDeleteI think a lot in this topic "What should I do in this topic" I do not know anything about them! They are my friends,that's it.
However, they are my friends (If they wants me to be friend,not boyfriend). Many friends I knew are polite and kind. Sometime they talk in dirty joke and make me laugh together with them.
I feel 'free' to talk with them. Maybe I am a quiet one but if they talk to me, I do not feel awkward to them.
In my opinion, they are best friends to talk with, because they are both gender and feel free to talk in anythings.
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Hello, Aj.M
ReplyDeleteI have many transgender friends: gays, lady boys and lesbians. For me, gender matters nothing to me in the communication(friendship) except with tomboy. I have many male friends since I was young because I'm the only one girl in my neighborhood. I liked climbing, playing football, and stuffs that a boy likes. Grandpa ever thought that I would be a tomboy. Now I have grown up, everything has changed. Now I have many friends; girls boys ladyboys and gays are my friends. And I think not that much about the sexuality. Yes, maybe because I'm the new generation, so more open-minded.
But actually the sexuality effets my communication a lil bit, as 'Nan' said, she talk in impolite way with lady boys friends. Yes, I do that too! sometimes I feel closer with them because there are something between girls; for example, jealous(girl usually does) so it is better to be more open to talk with a lady boy. For me, everyone are the same and I just think about their habits and their minds; sexuality is just something that separate human to let we learn and to make the world is not that boring.
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have a good night! :-)
Hi! Aj. Matthew
ReplyDeleteFor this topic, I think that gender doesn’t effect communication. I can communicate with everyone who can speak!!!! I have many friends who are gay or hermaphrodite. I like to talk with them. I don’t have any problem with them. Sometime I feel good to talk with them more than other one. I feel like this because I think that they understand me and can help me to solve some problem. I don’t think about gender and I always feel that they are the same with me. Although, almost people think that they are abnormal person. For me, they are my friends who I love so much.
“We can’t choose to be born but we can choose to be a good or bad person”
Have a nice dream ZzZzzZ
It's quite difficult to talk about this topic that we discuss about this, if some of our friedns who are gay or lesbian or whatever are reading our opinions , it might affect their feeling; on the other hand, it's a way for them to express their opinion about things that they face to, i think ^^.
ReplyDeleteI have so much friends that they want to be other gender, because they can't choose when they were born. I think it's not important for me if i don't know what really gender they are when I talk to them because I talk with every gender the same but it's depend on what relationship between me and the person I'm talking to.
Like you said that Thailand is very open country that someone want to express their feeling or what tey think in publick, so it's not so strange for me if I have to face to someone that are gay or lesbian or transgender.
Aom 5031006014 ^^
See you ka Aj.M
Hello Aj.Matthew,
ReplyDeleteIt's really nice holiday as same as nice topics again and again.
I really love to share my ideas with you and others every weeks. Coming here to gain more knowledge and wide vision.
WoW! This topic is also nice again. Thx for opening this topic for us to share with you and others.
By the way, I think that gender isn't a barrier for me to communicate with other people even I'm straight woman. It doesn't matter they are gay, transgender, lesbian and so on. I have these kinds of friends. I can get along with them. I think that we are all the same as human being and they are all my friends. We live together on this planet as global family.
For me, gender is not only one factor that affect to communication, but there are also another ones that can lead us to encounter with communication problems such as different languages and more relating cultural issues. I'm looking forward to learn more about that from you ka Ajarn. :)
Ahhh....Let me think for another..I think it's also related to Thai belief as well. Most Thais, being Buddhism, think that third gender is from fate or destiny. So in this case, third gender, they are born like this because of their fate. You can see that nobody is perfect in this world.. No matter what gender we are because even normal people also have their own fate.
Could I say that our life; it's like a script that was written from Heaven, each God in different religions? Fate, Destiny?? It's the most of Thai belief. Or maybe you will think of others? Could you share it please? Thanks:)
For example, as you can see that a son/daughter of rich people, being quite perfect people, also have their own fate, even they are rich but they are not happy because they need warmth or love from their parents. Their parents are always busy and don't have time for their kids because of their job. I think this case is also related to this topic and it's as same as third gender. Let me say, even their gender is not normal like other people but they have got other talents/gifts that others don't have instead. So, it can best substitute their fate of being third gender.
It's like if someone get best in something, they cannot get another. It's like the choice for you to choose but in this case, we cannot choose it. It's like the saying always stated that we can't choose to born, but we can choose to be for our best lives and being happy it. No matter gender is. I hope that all what I've mentioned above is like you stated from Dusty Springfield that "My sexuality has never been a problem to me but I think has been for other people". That's all what I think ka.:)
Thus, enjoy life and do it for the best for you and others. Being happy, plz keep in mind that nobody is perfect. You'll be the beloved of all people if you are good people or nice person and gender's point of view will be gone away. :D
Therefore, for me, the way to behave is more important than what gender is. It's just surface but mind is deeper to touch and feel. Don't judge the book from only its own cover!!
Let me share this website with you and others here, I think it could be very useful to learn more too. As I've read, I think it can be related to this lesson. It's almost the same. It's about Muslim belief. :)
Link: http://www.islamfortoday.com/ruqaiyyah06.htm
Anyway, I hope to learn more and more about culture. I love to study it. Can't wait for next topics!! haha LOL
Have a good night and Awesome week naka ^___^
Plz take care of yourself.
See you ka =)
Ms.Tipparat Eiamworawuttikul [Mingming]
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Good evening Aj. M
ReplyDeleteThere are many transgender in our life which our campus is the best example that you can see. I got know some good friends which they are transgender. They are kind and friendly person who want to have a life same as everyone. But sometimes people look them as a problem. They can do many things that are better than other people. It is not too hard to communicate with them because most of them are talkative which is easier to have a conversation with them.
I think you can be everything that you want if you know what is your duty and right.
Have a good night :D
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Hi, Aj.Matt
ReplyDeleteFrom your interesting question, I think that I have different communication with the person who has different gender. About transgender that have a lot in our university, I have more different communication too. Maybe it's depend on how close between me and my friend. Communication between my closefriend and my classmate also different. I think when I talk with transgender who is my friend, I feel free and good. The person who have different gender or third gender, they have the same feelung and maybe they will be also a good friend.
So, gender is not the problem for me to communicate with other person.
Goodnight ^^
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Sa-Wad-Dee ka Aj. Matthew ;)
ReplyDeleteI think the topic of CCC blog for this week is very interesting because as we know that Thailand is one of the most open country about sexual nowadays.
However,I also have some of my friends who are gay. They used to tell me that they have to keep their manner and their behavior that might show they are gay in order to not letting their parents to know that they are not men gender.
They also said that they have to act like men such as their voice, their clothing style, their language, and their other manner when they were at home with their parents. Whereas, when they are at school or with friends, they could be themselves; do girls activities, do make up, and other things like girls do. I think those are too bad for them because I am absolutely sure that there is no one who does not want to be who he or she is.
For me, I think to have a friend who is a transgender is not a problem for me because it is depends on his heart and who he really is.
However, I think the reason for me to know the gender of the person who I will talk to is that if the person is a transgender and I do not know about it, I might say something that may refer to this gender and they might feel bad about it.
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Thank you for interesting topic na ka, Aj.Matthew ;)
Have a nice dream na ka
^^
Chomphunut S.
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Hello Aj.Matthew
ReplyDeleteIt's interesting topic. In my opinion, Thai society opens mind to accept transgender to have a roll in society. For example, Thai media have many famous persons being transgender, and then they can live and work in the society happily. So, their communication to others do not have problems to live in society.
From my direct experience, I have a friend who was a boy, now he become a gay. He told me that the reason he had to be gay is from environment, and then he is gay completely. However, he changed already, he's still my friend. I can talk with him as same as we were. Nothing changes us. Actually, when I get some trouble, I can feel the masculineness of him. I think my friend is a boy not gay because i can feel it.
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It doesn't matter to communicate with them. It's ok to talk.
Just feel free...
Good Night ka ^^
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Somtimes transgender make our world to be colorful. Somtime gay can understand and be polite to woman more than ordinary gay.
ReplyDeleteI have gay as my friend. I impress to have friend like him.
Just open your mind~ to learn to know them.
Kansinee
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CCC Course Section 02
YES! I am agree with you that Thailand is one of the most open sexual cultures and I also agree that different gender will affect the way we communicate with. As I remember I have a gay’s friend at the first time that I met with this gay, I don’t know how can I talk with him Do I have to talk with politeness or with aggressive. However ,when I familiar with this gay I feel like though he was gay but I can talk with them like he is a girl .I feel comfortable to talk anything with him and more than that I feel relieve whenever I talk with him. He can understand me more than one girl can understand me .Therefore, with this gay’s friend made me know that it does not matter for one person to be a gay, lesbian, transgender or whatever. The thing that is important is do that person is a good person.
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Hello Aj. Matthew,
ReplyDeleteI know it must be very late to post a comment about this topic. I am sorry about this but I will give my opinion about it anyway.
Since I was a young boy, I have many friends that are so-called lady boys. For sure when I talk to them I need a different kind of communication. However, it does not just depends on the sex but age and the proximity also.
One more thing that I have to be very careful is my opinions toward the third sex. If I said something offensive, my lady-boy friends might get angry easily because they are sensitive like girls.
So, these are my opinion about communication between me and my third-sex friends. What do you think?
Nueng
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This is my first time here if you could see...hehe
ReplyDeleteyeahh...I feel more relex with gay friends more than man. We got closer in short time.
And because of being gay, I'm sure that I like a man not woman...I am not in the third space.
Tang_mo
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Thank you for your comments... this was an excellent conversation.
ReplyDeleteHello Aj Matthew
ReplyDeleteI think like you that why many people decided people by gender. We should to dicieded from their behavior. I think that just only you are good person is enough. However, I did not have a close friend who are trangender but I always try to understand them. In Thai social still have a lot of people who boycott the third (or forth) gender so I think we need to change attitude like these. It is selfish and unfair. Human are equal isn' it?
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Hello, Aj.Matthew
ReplyDeleteAbout gender, I think it is the right of each people who choose to do.
At first, I don't understand why they (gay, lesbian, or somethinf like that) choose to do like this?
why girs are not girls? and
why boys are not boys?
And nowsaday, I know every people have the cause of themselves. Noone want to be different with others.
I known from my friends. My opinon is open more than the past. I try to understand them because they are my friends.
Sometimes I think if I am not opened mind to know others, I will stupid.
Because of friends will be friends by their behavior and their opinion. It has not the relationship about gender in a little bit.
My behavior for my friends are same. I don't care their gender bacause they are my friends.
Jutawan Piansiripinyo
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Gender is very improtant in term of culture and role in the society that each gender have their own society's role.
ReplyDeleteFor example, woman have to take care of their kids and do housework, man have to work for their family.
However, noones can choose what they want to be, so there are many people want to be in another way that they aren't.
How they can do? I think it doesn't matter whatever they are, just being good guy, do not disturb other people and do not do anything crime.
Kukkui, 229 ^^
Hello Aj.
ReplyDeleteAccording to this topic in this week, i kind of interested about it. How do we know about which gender of person who am i talking to? the answer is i hardly know about it. from my experient. there is friends who look gender bender(girl look like boy or boy looks like girl) and i confuced about how i am going to act or treat him/her at first time. So, i determined to act as their look. Time will make you understand. After that, these friend will show their identity a bit by a bit and i can treat them as their real gender.
the gender bender makes uneasy to communication to them. Because of their look. For instance, a tomboy who is really handsome and make my heart tremble how can i think that they are a girl?
Transgender such as gay, lesbian are not metter to my life. If those people are good person, i will never think positive to them. the transgender bring something wonderful to our world, they have special abilities such as fashion. they are a creative.
Is it true, if we have transgender friend will make other people misunderstand about you? For me, i want to have sometimes to learn about them. However, most of people around me think that the person who has transgender friend are in that type of person. Such as, one of my friend is lesbien and we are very close friend so some of people think that i am a lesbien too.
whatever people gender will be, do not matter. if they are good person and they can live in the world peacefully.
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in Thai culture, this is very important...
ReplyDeleteThai people is not that bad but it is also not so good like that.
Thai people do not 100% ban the transgender but they also do not accept it 100%, either.
There are many people that look down on people who are different from them, this is the truth.
For me I think, it is important to know which sex they are. I am not separate or look down on any gender but I need to know the way to communicate to them, I just want to use the right word to the right one.
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